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Sara Tan (0:01)

G-L-A-M, Gloss Angeles.

Kirbie Johnson (0:14)

All right, before we get in today's episode, we feel that there's a conversation that we must address given that we have women of all ages who listen to Gloss Angeles. Specifically, we know that we have young women listening, and we just wanna take a minute because we care about you.

This goes for all women, by the way, not just young women, but we have all age ranges of women that listen to this pod. And so given the conversation that's been going on around Cornell and around the conversation around consent, and what it is, yep, we just wanted to put this out there in hopes that it might be helpful and hopes that it might spur a bigger conversation between you and your friends and your loved ones and people close to you. So that if you do find yourself in a position where you were uncomfortable, scared, there are certain things that you should know. So obviously alcohol and drugs can affect somebody's ability to consent. And if someone is too impaired to understand what's happening or make and communicate a choice, they cannot consent. And if there's any doubt, stop. I think that one thing about this particular Cornell case that I've appreciated is even if you're under the influence of something and not saying no, I personally still believe that we as a society should rethink, is she coherent enough to be making decisions that she would be making sober?

Sara Tan (1:42)

100%.

Kirbie Johnson (1:43)

So of course, no means no, but silence isn't a yes, freezing isn't a yes. And someone giving in after being pressured isn't freely consenting. If at any point you were into something and then decided you are not, that's okay. You can change your mind, even if you've already started, even if you've been with that person before, you do not owe anybody access to your body. For whatever reason you deem at that point, we've both been in college, we've been to parties, we've drank at school functions, sorority functions, whatever. Make sure that you have a plan with your friends to get home safely. Check in with one another. If you see that a friend is impaired, please stay with them and help them.

Get from one place to another with a person you trust, if that's not you, with somebody else that you trust.

Sara Tan (2:31)

I always say I would not have survived college without my best girlfriends. We all were always checking on each other.

This was back in the day when we couldn't even share our locations with each other. Now you can, so that is such a godsend. I hope that people are doing that. But it was at the end of the night, if it was only two girls remaining at the party, it's like, we're going home together. I will be waiting for you.

Kirbie Johnson (2:56)

Yes, 100%.

Also, arrange a sober driver or take a taxi or a ride share together. Don't put somebody in a car by themselves. And please don't drive after drinking. I think that's a big thing that, I feel like it's obvious, but-

Sara Tan (3:11)

We should just say it.

Kirbie Johnson (3:12)

Now that we have Uber's lifts, all of these things at our disposal, it's more pay the money and don't risk being pulled over, hurting yourself or hurting somebody else. So here's the other thing. Let's say you did drink too much or someone you know did, and they are incapacitated in some way. If they cannot be woken up or their breathing is slow or irregular, call 911

Don't second guess yourself, just call 911 and also stay with them. Don't assume that they can just sleep it off. Make sure that if you are concerned about someone's alcohol intake, or if they did drugs, whatever it is, no judgment. Make sure that you're with them and that you can keep tabs on them.

Sara Tan (3:55)

Yeah. And even if you are also not in a good state, you know, like if you did also drink or did drugs, like it's okay, just call 911

Kirbie Johnson (4:05)

100%.

And we also want to be very clear. If someone has hurt you, it is not your fault. Whether you drank, you went home with someone, you were alone, you didn't say no out loud, the responsibility belongs to the person who violated your consent. So you deserve support and you deserve to be believed. There are things as women though, unfortunately, that we have to do to try to protect ourselves at any given point. That being said, no means no, but there are also various other reasons why you cannot consent to something. And I really hope that this particular case maybe changes consent laws in different states because I don't think it should be as black and white as, well, she didn't say no, she didn't run away, she didn't leave.