Why Are Audio Engineers So Bad With Relationships?

Brian Hood (0:30)

co-host, Chris Graham.

Chris Graham (0:33)

Sup, guys, how's it going?

Brian Hood (0:35)

Oh, man, no, that was really mean. You're actually the beautiful, amazing one. I'm the little troll standing under the bridge.

Chris Graham (0:42)

That's not what I heard, I heard.

Brian Hood (0:43)

What did you hear, Chris Graham?

Chris Graham (0:45)

I heard there's a girl who thinks you're pretty hot, Brian.

Brian Hood (0:47)

Yeah, yeah, so big news. Since the last episode, episode 50, I have become engaged.

I am engaged now.

Chris Graham (0:56)

Yes, queen.

Brian Hood (0:57)

I will be getting married sometime in the future. We haven't set a date yet, but I gave her the ring.

She is my fiance now. I'm stoked AF.

Chris Graham (1:05)

Freaking awesome. So many congrats to you, sir.

Brian Hood (1:08)

Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Chris Graham (1:09)

What a glorious time in your life.

Brian Hood (1:12)

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

So yeah, we're still deciding on a bunch of, you know how it is, Chris, you're married. So it's like, I can only imagine what it's like between now and the wedding, and then the first year of marriage, all these things that you have to think about. So if anyone has any advice for me, send it to podcast at thesixfigurehomestudio.com. And let me know your pre-marital advice and then your post-marital advice.

Chris Graham (1:34)

Oh, man. Well, dude, let me segue us from that.

Brian Hood (1:38)

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Chris Graham (1:39)

This is a great opportunity for us to pose a question, and it's important for you to consider because you are an audio engineer. But this question of why do audio engineers seem to be so bad at relationships?

Brian Hood (1:52)

You talking about romantic relationships or just relationships in general?

Chris Graham (1:55)

Well, romantic especially, but in general, our track record ain't great, guys. You know, there's not a whole lot of people that are known for being a great audio engineer and for being, you know, like a great family man or having really, really strong, I don't know, we tend to obsess about stuff as a culture. This isn't true across the entire audio engineer spectrum, but it generally tends to be the rule rather than the exception. And that's one of the reasons when we had Matt on the podcast.

Brian Hood (2:25)

Yeah, that was episode number 27 We had Matt Bajiroan talking about how he saved over $3,000 a month by downsizing to profitability.

Chris Graham (2:32)

Yeah, and also saved his family in the process, you know, put his dreams backseat to his happiness. Man, that was such a cool episode. But I think it's something where we should sort of talk about the elephant in the room, which is one, audio engineers, this is what the podcast is about. We typically struggle with business stuff.

And two, we typically struggle with relationship stuff. Now, we try to keep it just in business stuff, but the two are intertwined.

If you are not doing a great job in your relationships, your business is going to suffer. If you're not doing a good job in your business, a lot of times your relationships are going to suffer. So these are two really integrated issues, and it might be the main cause. It's tough to make a living as an audio engineer. And anytime you're doing something where it's tough to make a living, it's tough to have good relationships as well.

Brian Hood (3:19)

Yeah, so I don't want to make this whole episode only about romantic relationships, because relationships as a whole directly translate to your business in some way, shape, or form. It can lead to referral work. It can lead to people that can help you through problems. It can lead to having a more stable life so that you can focus on your business.

So it's not just romantic relationships, but with that being said, I do want to note that for the first six years of me running my studio, I was so single it hurt. It was like, I was impressively single with no prospects of a girl in my life. So it was definitely a rough period of my life, and I can definitely be one to say that being an audio engineer, trying to make it in this business is really, really hard to do while also maintaining not just personal friendships, but romantic relationships, or even to find romantic relationships. So there is still, I don't want to make this whole episode about romantic relationships because that's not really our area of expertise, but what I will say is that all relationships will affect your business in some way, shape, or form. And so this episode is going to be our attempt at uncovering this complex issue of why audio engineers and recording professionals and studio owners tend to be not just bad, but just awful at relationships in general.