What’s Really Going On When a Friend Ghosts You?

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Hello, we're here for More Happier, a podcast where we get happier. It is the weekend, it is observations and reflections with a looser vibe. Hey Elizabeth.

Elizabeth Craft (2:11)

Hi Gretchen.

Gretchen Rubin (2:12)

Today we'll talk about the phenomenon of ghosting between friends and a realization of a change after our father died. But first, something making us happier. Elizabeth, what is something making you happier?

Elizabeth Craft (2:26)

Well Gretchen, this is a small thing and I guess I'd file it under the knowing yourself better makes you happier category.

Gretchen Rubin (2:33)

Love it.

Elizabeth Craft (2:34)

Which is that I've recently realized about myself that I have a love of rocks and crystals and that sort of organic hard material, which I never knew about myself nor would I have thought that I would like that kind of thing.

Gretchen Rubin (2:54)

No, I did not see that coming. How did you figure this out about yourself and what are the kinds of rocks that you like?

Elizabeth Craft (3:02)

Well, mom has many beautiful things that I just noticed. I was really drawn or I am really drawn to these crystal candle holders she has.

Gretchen Rubin (3:14)

Yeah, and describe them because crystal can mean that clear, fancy glass and that's not what you're talking about. You're talking about crystals like rocks.

Elizabeth Craft (3:23)

Here's what they look like. If you've seen Superman, the original Christopher Leaves, he would go to his planet and he would pull out these crystals to be able to communicate with his parents.

They look like that except those are more clear, they're colored but clear whereas these are cloudy. But they're spiky like that.

Gretchen Rubin (3:47)

Yes. It's crystals like a crystal that comes out of the ground, not a crystal goblet.

Elizabeth Craft (3:52)

Yes. Very organic.

Gretchen Rubin (3:56)

Yes. If you go to a Natural History Museum, they have versions of this on the gift shop shelf. But this is a beautiful, elevated, decorative use of those kinds of crystals.

Elizabeth Craft (4:07)

Yes. I love them so much. Mom gave me two of them. Now I have them and they're my prized possession. Then I was also seeing something else I loved at mom's, which again just surprised me, which is what I can only describe as a lump of mica.

Mica is like a shiny rock mineral.

Gretchen Rubin (4:29)

Kind of shiny. Yeah.

Elizabeth Craft (4:30)

Yeah. She had this little sculptural blob of mica that I was just so drawn to.

Gretchen Rubin (4:39)

Wait, can I just say this is, first of all, it's odd that you have this enjoyment. But now that you say that, it's odd that our mother has that enjoyment because if you said, hey, does your mother like decorative rocks and crystals? I would have been 100 percent that is not her jam. That is not her style at all. And yet, clearly, it is her style because she has these beautiful things that are like that.