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Farwell Wrote He Should've Walked Away and Let Sandra Birchmore Do WHAT?!

Hidden Killers With Tony Brueski | True Crime News & Commentary

October 20, 2026

"I should have just walked away and let you hurt yourself." Matthew Farwell wrote that to Sandra Birchmore on December 28, 2020, when she was three and a half weeks pregnant and had just told him it might be better if she'd never been born. Matthew Farwell trial: the FBI read his texts to the jury.

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This is HiddenKillers With Tony Brueski.

Tony Brueski (0:12)

We're gonna get into the Sandra Birchmore text messages today. Brace yourself, it gets worse. And Stoughton's pro pedo PD is on full display. As we've heard the last several days, the cover-ups involving so many officers, lack of investigation, looking the other way, it's pathetic. These people call themselves humans, not even just men, humans. My God, what sad excuses for living, breathing people some of these officers are. It happens to be your father, your husband, your son, your brother. I'm sorry.

You have the full permission of the world to walk away.

Sandra Birchmore's iPhone 12 locked for the last time at 9:13 PM on February 1st, 2021 It was never unlocked again. The Massachusetts State Police opened it in March in a lab.

9.07, she texted Matthew Farwell. Are you still up? And okay to come by?

He answered, you asked if I could come by, so I made some time. She wrote back, okay, the door is open when you get here.

He walked into her building at 9.14. He walked out at 9.44, 30 minutes. He never texted her again. On Monday, an FBI agent named Kelsch sat in a federal courtroom in Boston and rebuilt eight years for a jury. Kelsch spent seven hours on the stand, walking through the texts, the journals, the medical records, the police time sheets, the phone data, and the cellbrite extraction. Yes, Matt, the answer to your question is yes, they can get your deleted text off of your phone. I know you Googled that just a few days after you killed Sandra Birchmore, or allegedly killed Sandra Birchmore. But the answer is clearly yes, because they found them and they're using them in court against you right now. Just in case you needed someone to tell you that's what's happening. You're sitting there in prison on your iPad. Oh, yeah.

That's what they're doing. I don't know. I mean, he seems like a rather bit of a dope.

What the jury heard was the full documented record of a relationship that started when she was 15 and he was a 27-year-old Stoughton police officer. His own defense attorney opened this trial by telling that Jerry Matthew Farwell is a man who had an affair. You know, they played it down because the truth would be a little too damning to him. Matthew Farwell, Matt, as they call him, is a man who started grooming a 12-year-old, eventually started having sex with her when she was 15 And then was led to believe that she was going to have his baby by 23 You know, your average love affair, when you groom the kid of the police explorer program, and eventually fall in love, or not really, because you're married and you have two children, one literally delivered the day after she dies.

I think that's love. But to a child, which Sandra Birchmore was, for a majority of the relationship, that can look like that, especially when you come from a background where you've never experienced any sort of healthy love or healthy boundaries or healthy relationships with parents or peers.

Love can be constructed into whatever your mind tells you it is, when you want it that badly. And when you have someone, a predator, telling you that what they're showing you is love, and you know no other definition of it, it can be insanely confusing. And that's why they're predators. And that's why they go to jail. And in some countries, we execute them. Because it's so sick and so twisted the way that they take advantage of the vulnerable. Matthew Farwell was one of those people without a fucking doubt. There's no alleged there. These are his texts. You can glean off of the texts what kind of a mutant monster he is. And for some reason, the gods above thought it would be right to bless the world with two of them.

And in Utero, split the egg. Then you have Matt and his twin brother.

The twin ain't that much better. He hasn't been charged with anything, but he was certainly along for the ride on a lot of this stuff.

The defense said Matthew Farwell is a man who had an affair. But his texts tell a bit of a different story. What he wrote to her, what she wrote back, what he did when the answers stop mattering, and what a federal judge decided with the jury out of the room. That's what we're going to get into today. Your thoughts in the comment section as we do just that. The recovered texts start in 2019, but the relationship didn't. Sandra's notebooks fill the years the phone can't. In October 2023, birthday list for him when she was 16 and he was turning 28

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