Dr. Cheyenne Bryant Talks About “Being Cooked”, Dating Younger Men, & Having A Baby In Her 40s. (Part 2)

Shannon Sharpe (0:00)

Now, let me ask you this, are you okay with a man who already has children? No.

Cheyenne Bryant (0:06)

No.

Shannon Sharpe (0:06)

Okay, why not?

Paul Pierce (0:07)

Deal breaker. Deal breaker for you, why not?

Cheyenne Bryant (0:09)

Because I want my own family.

Shannon Sharpe (0:11)

And you feel like you cannot have that with a man who already has children?

Cheyenne Bryant (0:17)

That is a form of polyamory.

Shannon Sharpe (0:20)

Really? Explain that, please.

Cheyenne Bryant (0:23)

Okay. Polyamory doesn't have to do with us all living in a household together, and we're all doing the do.

Polyamory is outside relationships that I'm okay with. So if I'm in a relationship with Paul, I have to be okay with him having a relationship with the mothers of his children. I would hope he does.

So although he's not sleeping with him, or we would want to think he's not, let's just take him as being a good man. He's just co-parenting and doing it the right way. Well, when Christmas or holidays come around, or a birthday party or a wedding or graduation, Paul has every right to spend time with his kids. If the mother is there, I mean, they procreate it together. It's not a crime for her to be in the same room as him. That's what co-parenting is, healthy co-parenting is. If I agree to that, I am now, or I should be attempting to be healthy with these women, right? If I'm gonna love him, I love Paul's kids. So now I'm in a polyamory relationship that I'm agreeing to be in, because although you're not sleeping with this woman, we all are a family, whether you want to think of it that way or not. Because if I love this man- Part-time.

Part-time, full-time. Polyamory can be part-time, full-time. We can polyamory from 2 to 5 p.m. It don't matter what the time frame is. It is what it is. So I am not willing to agree to be in a polyamorous relationship because I am a faithful woman. So I'm not gonna have a man outside of him to equal out the playing field, because technically I might have lost. You get to have two other families and I get to have you. And what if I don't want to share you on Christmas?

Paul Pierce (1:57)

Or any day, any day.

Cheyenne Bryant (1:58)

What if I don't want to share you on your child's birthday? And I'm not saying that's okay. I'm speaking reality. See, people don't want to speak reality. A lot of, most, I've never, I've yet to hear a woman who was with a man, even if she has a kid outside of him. Let's say they both have kids outside of each other, who have not said, if it was just us and our kids, it would be much easier.

Shannon Sharpe (2:20)

Absolutely.

Cheyenne Bryant (2:21)

And that's even without having baby mama, baby daddy drama. We're talking about the emotion that comes with it. So if I don't want to share you on Monday, January 3rd, because I'm just in my space where I want you, but little Paul has a birthday party, and he needs his father, and I want to support you. So I love y'all. I take you out as a package deal. But I don't have any kids. So guess what? You get me 365 days of the year, unless I'm on my speaking tour, or I'm in session healing a client, or I'm here on your podcast, and you can even come here with me. You still don't got to share me.

So what am I saying is, it is an unfair bargain that too many women and men do, because men date women with kids too. And that man may not have kids, and he's also signing up for that.

And so as much as people may not want to say it, it definitely creates a wedge between those two people, because this man has already done the most deepest, intimate thing you can ever do with another human, which is what? Procreate. See, I can marry you all day long, and you can go do that with anyone else. Once I create a child with you, that is your DNA and my DNA. Where else can you mix us to that depth or that level? Where else can you cleave and woove us into a quilt together? We can't even do that in marriage.

Shannon Sharpe (3:46)

Damn, that's deep.

Paul Pierce (3:48)

All right. I got a question.

What show? Okay, so...

Cheyenne Bryant (3:56)

Paul's like, damn.

Shannon Sharpe (3:58)

No, because you hit me with some stuff. I'm like, wow.