Brian and Judson celebrate 100 episodes with Cats: The Jellicle Ball’s Sydney James Harcourt and talk sex with straight men, preferring faceless Grindr profiles, his affair with Andy Cohen, recognizing realness as a trauma response, and more

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**Brian Rubin-Sowers** (0:42)
Hi, friends, welcome to Dads And Daddies, a podcast about the lives and times of adult gay men in the here and now. I'm Brian Rubin-Sowers, the dad.

**Judson Morrow** (0:49)
And I am Judson Morrow, the daddy.

**Brian Rubin-Sowers** (0:53)
Judson, happy 100 episodes.

**Judson Morrow** (0:58)
Happy 100 episodes. Congratulations, dad.

**Brian Rubin-Sowers** (1:02)
Congratulations, daddy.

**Judson Morrow** (1:03)
This is your fucking brainchild.

**Brian Rubin-Sowers** (1:05)
It's crazy, 100 episodes?

**Judson Morrow** (1:07)
Yeah, that's a lot of visits to your house, although.

**Brian Rubin-Sowers** (1:11)
I know we're not at my house today.

**Judson Morrow** (1:13)
What are we doing here?

**Brian Rubin-Sowers** (1:14)
Oh my gosh. So I'm not going to blow up the spot. I'm not going to say it by name because I don't want the gays to come after me. But we are at a hotel today. And the reason we're at a hotel is because our guest today had a very tight schedule and asked if we could find a space closer to where he needed to be because our basement where we record is a bit of a trek for people. And so we booked a hotel and of course, I took my husband's advice and I compared notes between our favorite websites, bestcomedumbs.com and dayuse.com to find a hotel that did not require a key card to get up and that you could book by the day or for the day for the nine to four hours. And what my husband had previously thought is that there was only one, I think, hotel in Manhattan where you could do this. And it was the hotel where listeners who've been with us for a little while will remember that not that long ago, I spent a fabulous day and had five back-to-back hookups.
And that's far downtown in what we here in the city call the financial district. And he said, you know, there wasn't any in Hell's Kitchen, Times Square slash theater district area.

**Judson Morrow** (2:36)
Which like has to be wrong. Well, clearly it's wrong.

**Brian Rubin-Sowers** (2:40)
But well, I think, I think at the time they're just, they just weren't on both sites. I think both, I think both sites are still fairly nationed, you know, and so I mean, also best come dump is crowdsource.

**Judson Morrow** (2:54)
So it takes a while for the Intel to publish.

**Brian Rubin-Sowers** (2:56)
Yes, I think that's a lot of it. And I think Dayu's signing up more and more hotels as part of it. So anyway, I was very happy to find a hotel in the theater district, Hell's Kitchen, Times Square, all of the above that was on both. And so I thought, well, hey, this is convenient for our interview. And then once we're done, I'm going to kick everybody out and spend the afternoon here and see what happens.

**Judson Morrow** (3:20)
I love that for you.

**Brian Rubin-Sowers** (3:21)
To celebrate 100 episodes.

**Judson Morrow** (3:23)
To celebrate 100 episodes, I'm taking 100 loads.

**Brian Rubin-Sowers** (3:25)
Exactly. Well, on bestcomedumps.com, they have one of the pieces of criteria that you put in as somebody who's experienced the hotel is a maximum load count. And the maximum load count for this hotel was 40
Maximum daily load count, I want to say.

**Judson Morrow** (3:44)
Are we going to max that?

**Brian Rubin-Sowers** (3:46)
I mean, Toby asked if I was taking that as a challenge. I don't think so. I'm not looking to schedule a come dump.
I like hookups. Yeah. And I don't think I can knock out 40, no. But...

**Judson Morrow** (3:56)
I love that as a data point.

**Brian Rubin-Sowers** (4:00)
Exactly. Isn't that amazing? Yeah. So we're not in the basement. We're here in a hotel for today's episode, which is our 100th again, which is just...

**Judson Morrow** (4:11)
Mind-blowing.

**Brian Rubin-Sowers** (4:12)
Mind-blowing. I mean, I remember when we first started, I read a statistic and then, you know, Aidan Wharton, our friend, just posted it again, because he just made it to 12 episodes, that like 92% of podcasts don't make it to 12 episodes, and we're at 100