#566 The Only Script You Need for Curious Career Conversations

**Helen** (0:00)
Hi, I'm Helen from the Squiggly Careers podcast, and you are listening to one of our Squiggly Careers shortcuts. These super short episodes are designed to be easy to fit into your day, and also easy to take action with straight away. And today, I want to talk about the only script you need to get started with a curious career conversation. So one of the things that we notice when we're talking to people is that people can sometimes be quite reactive about the conversations they have about their career. So they can wait until they decide they don't want to do what they're doing, or they've seen a job that they want to do, they're sort of waiting for that moment. Whereas what we would recommend is that you are continually curious about your career, because it is very likely that it is the connections that you make and the conversations that you have, which will get you closer to the possibilities that you want for your career. So if you're not making those connections and we're not having those conversations, we're always keeping those opportunities a bit further at distance. So curious career conversations are when you go and talk to somebody about the work that they're doing, could be a project they're working on, could be a job that they're doing, could be a company they're working in. And your only aim in the conversation is to learn, to learn about them, the company, the work. You're not necessarily coming away with any actions. You're not really making any asks. You're just going in with the intent to learn. And this can create some very, very helpful data points for your development. And it can also mean that you can plant yourself in people's minds so that if there is an opportunity in an area you're interested in, you're more likely to be considered. So that's why curious conversations are really important. Now, Sarah and I also know that it might take a bit of confidence to have these conversations, to reach out in the first place, and then to think, well, what do I talk about when I'm in this conversation? So reaching out, I would suggest you just get in touch with somebody via email or via LinkedIn, or even better, perhaps ask for an introduction and just say, I'd love to learn a little bit more about your area. It's something I'm interested in. I'd really appreciate 20 minutes of your time to talk. Like a low pressure ask make learning the agenda. And then they are very likely to say yes if you're very specific about that ask. So you're going to go into the conversation and there are three questions that are going to help. Clearly, you can ask more than three questions. But if you're feeling a bit nervous and you've not done this before, it's helpful to start with a bit of a script. So question number one, I would always start with, can you tell me a bit about a day in your work life? The reason this is a good question to start with is people generally quite like talking about themselves. So it gets rid of any awkwardness or weirdness or nervousness straight away.
And what you are listening out for when they are responding to that question is, does a day in their work life sound like a day that you would like to do? And we often make assumptions about what people spend their time on. So this can challenge some of their assumptions. Now, clearly, you don't need to tell them. You don't need to say, gosh, that sounds awful. That's not for me. You're going to keep that learning to yourself. But it's a good question to get started with.
Second question, I would always ask something about strengths. It might sound like, what are the strengths that you use most in your role? Or what are the talents that you think you need to be brilliant in that particular position? But think about strengths. Now, the reason that you want to ask that question is because in your mind, you're thinking, does that job need what I want to be known for?
Because if this is going to be a good fit for you in the future, you really want to make sure that the strengths that you want to be known for are what a particular project or a position needs. And until you learn from what strengths someone else is bringing to it, you don't know whether you're going to get that sense of fit. So always ask something about strengths. Now, let's imagine that the day they've described sounds like a day you want to do, and the strengths they need are what you want to be known for. These opportunities are currently getting big ticks for you in your career. So we're going to go in with a third question. This one is much more about learning. It's about future-proofing your skills for these opportunities. So the question here, I would go and say something like, if this was a role that I was interested in exploring further, what more do you think I should learn about now?