Your Peace Is More Valuable Than Your Immediate Response

**Matthew Gottesman** (0:02)
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Welcome to episode 805, Your Peace Is More Valuable Than Your Immediate Response. Your peace is more valuable than your immediate response, my friends. If you don't know what to do or say in the moment, instead of saying something from complete urgency, or urgency, emergency, chaos, any of those things, take a pause. Take a pause. I found that the more I do that, the more present I actually am with people. I want that presence to feel felt. That's not always easy for people who are in immediacy mode all the time. No, I need to answer right away. And it's like, okay, hold up a second.
If we're trying to respond right away from that sense of urgency and emotion, it might come from, we might miss the details. We might miss the precision or something that we could do that doesn't need to come from a place that's maybe as chaotic. And I know, and I've had people ask me before, they're like, well, but some things are original. I'm like, well, no, what you might be thinking of is diligence. I always want to move with diligence. And a lot of times, I'm actually already prepared for things that might happen. That's called flexibility. Right, but I'm asking you, can you pause? Whether that's maybe somebody's asking you to make a very important decision in business. Maybe somebody's asking you in your household or your friend group or whatever to make a very important decision. You don't always have to respond immediately.
Right, you can take a pause. Pause, pauses create better outcomes, I think, than a reaction ever could. You know what, let me get back to you on that. All right, but I need to know by tomorrow. Like, okay, I got it, so this is a high priority. I want to give it the, it's just due, but like, let me, just give me a day. Thank you for letting me know the timeframe, you know?
So not everything that demands a response deserves one right now. And then the other thing too is that this isn't also just about the urgency of work and life, this is also sometimes, sometimes if we're not careful, whether it's comments or conversations or situations or whatever, that might catch you off guard, right? Or make your chest kind of tight, and you know, it's like, or maybe your mind start racing, right? And it's easy for any of us, listen, we are all human. So it's very easy for any of us to, in a moment, get into our head or feel unsettled. The pause helps with that. The pause is, you know what? I want to answer you from a grounded place. You know what? Need a moment to understand what's going on. You know what? I need to just take a minute and fill into, you know, what might be helpful in this moment, right? And it's hard because everything in you may want to respond right now, like immediately, right? Before the feeling passes or something like that.
But I found, because a lot of people have asked me about like my calmness to approaching things and people and all and experiences and all these things, is I'm like, you know what? I've learned to be okay with taking a little bit of extra time. I get it. That's hard in a world that wants to move fast all the time, although I think that everybody's kind of burning out on that. Take a pause, right? Your piece is more valuable. Everybody benefits when you don't act out of urgency and bracing and gripping internally and all this other stuff. And I'm immediately making up something that you don't even really know. Again, now, I'm not talking about, there's also preparation where I'm in my body of work. I do spend a lot of time with God. I do spend a lot of time journaling and praying and in self-regulation mode. So I generally know how to respond in real time. I've gotten really good at that. But if I don't know, I take a pause. So in this episode, I want to talk about why the urgency to respond immediately is almost never as urgent as it feels. How many times have you had to like, you responded urgently, then all of a sudden it's like, oh yeah, we didn't end up using that idea. Oh yeah, and then you or you're committed to an event that you don't even want to go to, or just whatever, you did all this extra work for that thing, and then it didn't even end up doing anything.