World No.1 Divorce Lawyer: This Is A Sign You’ll Divorce In 10 Years!

Steven Bartlett (0:00)

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If you had to give one relationship ritual to stay in love, what would that be?

James Sexton (1:11)

Once a week, tell your partner three things that you love about them, and three things they could have done better.

Steven Bartlett (1:16)

But some people thinking, well, if I told Dave that we're going to start writing these notes to each other, he's going to cringe and not going to do it.

James Sexton (1:21)

Bullsh**. Honestly, Dave can't name three things he likes about you? Really, Dave? Is that a big ask? I absolutely call bullsh** on that. The bigger question is, what's uncomfortable about that for you? And look, I'm not a therapist. I'm a divorce lawyer. I represent some of the most high achieving minds, athletes, entrepreneurs, and they're just as bad at this as anybody. Because there's a part of us that's afraid to poke at, what do you love about me? What am I getting wrong? And it's not just romantic relationships. Like, my mom died ten years ago after a long battle with cancer. There was a lot between us that needed to be said and wasn't said.

And there's a part of me that wishes she was here, so that I could have apologized for some things that I got wrong. But we don't do that. Because people just don't want temporary discomfort. And so I think there's something deeply courageous about love. Of about commitment, about saying, I'm going to give them the opportunity to hurt me. Like, it's scary, but I'm brave. You know, your marriage will end. It ends in death or divorce. And for two people at the end of their relationship to say, this person helped me become the most authentic version of myself, that's the greatest gift you could give to a happy human being.

Steven Bartlett (2:38)

And as you can see from this photo, I just proposed to my fiance, I'd like some advice on how not to mess this up. Like, if my fiance ends up walking into your practice, what is the reason she's likely to end up there?

James Sexton (2:50)

The number one reason that I'm going to have a woman sitting across from me divorcing someone who's a great provider, great protector is...

Steven Bartlett (2:59)

That is not obvious to everybody.

James Sexton (3:01)

And it'll keep me in business for the rest of my life.

Steven Bartlett (3:06)

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James, as you can see from this photo, I just proposed to my fiance and gladly she said, Yes. So I brought you here in part because I'd like some advice on how not to mess this up. Because I know from speaking to you previously, about 50% of people that get down on their knee end up messing it up in some way. Before we get into this though, and before you help me figure out how to stay in love and not mess it up, where do you find us at as it relates to love as a society? If you were to zoom out and diagnose society's relationship with the subject of love and their ability to keep it find it and understand it, where are we?