Why You Shouldn’t Share Your Private Life Online - Mary Harrington - #732

**Chris Williamson** (0:00)
What's happening, people? welcome back to the show. My guest today is Mary Harrington. She's a writer, columnist and an author. Everyone has the temptation to share their life on the internet, but where does the line of sharing stop and oversharing begin? How has our performance for the crowd crept into our morals and changed the way that we see the role of privacy around our personal lives? Expect to learn what digital modesty is, why liberals would be more likely to date an Only Fans worker than an Only Fans subscriber. If there is a crisis with both masculinity and femininity in our culture, Mary's thoughts on the surrogacy industry, why women need to develop a strategy for not getting what they want and much more. Mary is so fun. I love her writing. Her book Feminism Against Progress was really great and she is part of the based British Women Squad along with Louise Perry and Nina Power and stuff. So if you're fans of them, you'll love this one today. Other things, I am going to LA tonight. No, I'm going to Vegas tonight and I have got a very big episode tomorrow and then I'm in LA, Friday and Saturday recording even more big ones with some massive returning guests and some huge first times. I can't wait for this. It's nice to be back in the rhythm of doing the Modern Wisdom cinema episodes and I can't wait to release them. I'm really, I'm super, super fired up for this year. I wish I could tell you all the different guests that we've got that are coming on, but until they're recorded and on the hard drive, I don't want to count my chickens before they've goosed or whatever it's called. But yes, make sure that you're subscribed. It's the only way that you can never miss an episode and the next few months are going to be massive. Plus, it helps to support the show. So go and do it. I thank you. This episode is brought to you by AG1. You are not eating enough fruit and vegetables in your diet and you know it and this is going to help. If you are looking to make an upgrade to your nutrition, AG1 is a fantastic place to start. It is a daily foundational nutrition supplement that supports whole body health. It's got a science driven formulation of vitamins, probiotics and whole food source nutrients. It delivers comprehensive support for your brain, gut and immune system. This is why Dr. Andrew Huberman and David Sinclair and Joe Rogan and Lex Friedman and myself are all massive fans because it is the best daily foundational nutrition supplement on the planet. Also, there is a 90 day money back guarantee so you can buy it and try it for 89 days and if you do not like it, they will give you your money back. Head to www.drinkag1.com.com. Slash modern wisdom to get a year's free supply of vitamin D, five free travel packs, plus that 90 day money back guarantee. That's www.drinkag1.com/modernwisdom. One of my favorite purchases over the last two years has been my cold plunge from the team over at plunge.com. They are the gold standard when it comes to cold therapy. You may have heard Joe Rogan and Andrew Huberman talking about the benefits of repeated cold exposure and it is real. You feel so amazing after you've done it and the improvement in your mood is insane. So if you've been thinking that you want to get started doing cold therapy, but you cannot be bothered going to the store to get yourself ice every single time you need to do it, this is for you. Also, they've just released their own sauna which is ridiculously high quality as well. And we are bouncing between the two doing what's called contrast therapy which makes you feel even better. So yeah, if you're looking to make a change, if you're looking to get yourself a cold plunge or a sauna for your house, this is the place to go. Best of all, they've got a 30 day money back guarantee. So you can buy it and try it for 29 days. And if you do not like it, they will give you your money back. Go to plunge.com to get your cold plunge and sauna today with $150 off your purchase by using the code MW150 at checkout. That's plunge.com and the code MW150 at checkout. But now, ladies and gentlemen, please welcome Mary Harrington.
What do you mean by digital modesty?

**Mary Harrington** (4:12)
Oh yeah, that's an idea I've been playing with a lot recently, which is really just about where we've got to with the exposure of everything on the internet. And this is something I've found myself thinking about a lot more, and the more I've found myself writing in public and speaking in public, and really sort of being present online, whether it's on Twitter or wherever, which is, is there anything that we shouldn't be posting? And the more I think about that, the more I conclude that, yes, there are absolutely things that we shouldn't be posting, or rather, if there are things which, if we do share them, we should expect negative consequences to follow from that. I mean, and the more I've thought, I've derived a set, I guess, of basic principles for what I won't post. I won't post selfies online. I mean, my face is all over the internet, right? But in the context of a conversation, you know, you and I are here to not, we're not here to talk about my face. I mean, my face is just my face. We're here to exchange ideas and to have a conversation.