Why Is Love So Hard To Find In The Modern World? - Matthew Hussey - #765

**Chris Williamson** (0:00)
Hello, everybody. Welcome back to the show. My guest today is Matthew Hussey. He's the world's number one dating coach, a YouTuber, public speaker and an author. Navigating modern love can feel like solving an impossible puzzle. But in truth, there are specific skills and tips that can elevate your romantic life. Matthew has spent 15 years coaching millions of men and women through their relationship struggles. And today we get his best insights. Expect to learn if dating coaches are actually any easier to date, whether love should happen naturally, or if we need to work at it, how you can realise the behaviours that are making you miserable, why being single is so hard for many people, the biggest problem with avoiders, how to get better at having hard conversations, and much more. In other news, I have been talking about some exciting stuff that we did a couple of weeks ago here in Austin. The most expensive, biggest, most technically complex cinema shoot that we've ever done with four huge guests and the first clip from that goes live tomorrow. We filmed a huge behind the scenes vlog, which will tell you everything that you need to know. I'm really, really excited. I haven't been this fired up to announce anything ever before. And I really hope that it comes across and is as cool and groundbreaking as I want it to be. And if not, it'll be a good story. So check out the YouTube on Tuesday or just look at Instagram. I'm sure that you won't be able to escape it. One of my favorite purchases over the last two years has been my cold plunge from the team over at plunge.com. They are the gold standard when it comes to cold therapy. You may have heard Joe Rogan and Andrew Huberman talking about the benefits of repeated cold exposure. And it is real. You feel so amazing after you've done it. And the improvement in your mood is insane. So if you've been thinking that you want to get started doing cold therapy, but you cannot be bothered going to the store to get yourself ice every single time you need to do it, this is for you. Also, they've just released their own sauna, which is ridiculously high quality as well. And we are bouncing between the two doing what's called contrast therapy, which makes you feel even better. So yeah, if you're looking to make a change, if you're looking to get yourself a cold plunge or a sauna for your house, this is the place to go. Best of all, they've got a 30 day money back guarantee. So you can buy it and try it for 29 days. And if you do not like it, they will give you your money back. Go to plunge.com to get your cold plunge and sauna today with $150 off your purchase by using the code MW150 at checkout. That's plunge.com and the code MW150 at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Whoop. I've won Whoop for over four years now since way before they were a partner on the show. And it is the only wearable I have ever stuck with because it's the best. It is so innocuous. You do not remember that you've got it on. And yet it tracks absolutely everything 24 seven via something from your wrist. It tracks your heart rate, tracks your sleep, your recovery, all of your workouts, your resting heart rate, your heart rate variability, how much you're breathing throughout the night. It puts all of this into an app and spits out very simple, easy to understand and fantastically usable data. It's phenomenal. I am a massive, massive fan of Whoop. And that is why it's the only wearable that I've ever stuck with. You can join for free, pay nothing for the brand new Whoop 4 strap, plus you get your first month for free and there's a 30 day money back guarantee. So you can buy it for free, try it for free. And if you do not like it after 29 days, they will give you your money back. Head to join.whoop.com/modernwisdom. That's join.whoop.com/modernwisdom.
But now ladies and gentlemen, please welcome Matthew Hussey.
Do you think that dating coaches are any easier to date?

**Matthew Hussey** (4:07)
God, it's funny. I used to, I've been called a dating coach so many times in my life. I now opt for other titles because the title alone is something I try and steer away from. But I know that for me the first chapter of this book is really dispelling the idea.

**Chris Williamson** (4:30)
Any myth that you were a competent data.

**Matthew Hussey** (4:32)
Yeah, I wanted to take myself well and truly off that pedestal that anyone had ever put me on, that I must have been a great guy to date as any kind of a, whether it was a dating coach people called me or a relationship coach or a love coach.