Why Better Sex Starts Outside the Bedroom

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Emily Morse (1:07)

And those moments of kissing and touching and slowing down, new experiences, new sensations, they don't need to be sexual or physical. They can be verbal connections. It could be spontaneous gifts. Reinforcing the commitment to your relationship could be a really important part of the difference between good sex and bad sex. Hey, everyone, welcome to Sex With Emily. I'm Dr. Emily Morse and my mission is to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. Whether you're looking to improve your relationships, have better communication, explore your desires, or simply have your best sex ever, you are in the right place. Before we jump in, make sure you're following me everywhere. It's at Sex With Emily on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, Facebook. For even more sex and relationship advice and more resources, go to sexwithemily.com. Sign up for my free weekly newsletter. I hear I give really good newsletter. Shop my curated sexual wellness products and picks at shopsexwithemily.com and explore hundreds of articles, download free guides, and everything you need to have the best sex ever. And one more thing, I'm taking Sex With Emily on the road. My new live show, The Best Sex Ever Tour, is coming to cities across the country. It's basically live coaching meets comedy meets audience Q&A, and we are getting into it. There has been magic happening in these rooms. You just have to come experience it. There's real conversations about sex and dating and relationships, and we become very close by the end of the night. Visit sexwithemily.com/events for dates and tickets. And thanks for listening or watching and for being here. And thanks for prioritizing your pleasure. In today's best of episode, I dive into the psychology of foreplay and intimacy, a fascinating study on the difference between good and bad sex, and how to get aroused with specific and quite sexy, pre-game tips. We also talk about what to do with foreplay and overall sex with your partner has gotten a bit stale, how to tease and arouse yourself, what to do if your partner doesn't want to explore new things and how to handle a partner who won't reciprocate foreplay. Plus, I answer your questions. Lot in this episode. I think you're gonna love it. As always, you can let me know. I'd love to hear from you.

So I often say that foreplay starts after the last orgasm. And what I mean by that is foreplay should really happen all day, every day. So I want to break down the importance of foreplay for a really dynamic sex life. And then give you some tips for making foreplay hotter than ever and answer your foreplay questions. So let's talk about foreplay for a minute because I think it does get a bad rap. In the sense of you often hear that women, vulva owners want foreplay, penis owners don't want foreplay. And there's this notion that it's always something that we're nagging for, like women back in the day, they just want foreplay and men are just ready to go. And I'm just going to dispel all of those myths today. But first, let me define what foreplay is. So foreplay also can be called outer course, which I actually like that better because foreplay to me is a term that just centers on it being the precursor to sex, and that sex is all about penetration. Penis goes in vagina. And in my mind, sex should not be only about that. Foreplay is basically a sexual activity defined as a sexual activity that happens before sexual intercourse, again, showing that it's happening before the main event. So sort of the warm up and foreplay doesn't have to always lead to intercourse, typically things like kissing, cuddling, touching, talking.