When Things Don't Go as Planned

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Hey, y'all, what's up? It's Loren LoRosa, and this is another episode of The Latest with Loren LoRosa. This is your daily dig on all things pop culture, entertainment news, and all of the conversations that shake the room, baby. Now y'all know we kick off The Latest with Loren LoRosa, checking in Behind the Scenes of the Grind. So let's get on to it.

Checking in Behind the Scenes of the Grind. Today it is Friday, and we are headed to some family things. I'm celebrating my cousin Tasha's birthday this weekend. She is turning 40 She listens to the podcast. She listens to The Breakfast Club. She listens to me everywhere I'm at. She supports me so much. So, you know, I of course am going to show up for her. I'm really excited about this weekend and spending this weekend with my family. And y'all are probably like every single time you talk about spending time with your family, you always are excited, but I am. I come from a great family and I love them. But I think the most beautiful thing about this though is that I don't have sisters. I have brothers. I have an older brother from my dad and a younger brother from my mom who I grew up with in the same household, my younger brother. So my cousins have always been like my sisters. And my cousin Tasha in particular that I'm talking about has always been the older sister who has also allowed me to live my life, make my mistakes, but like it's always like one call away type of thing. Like she's always been that person. And as I get older and as I'm navigating life and career and all these different spaces and new people or whatever, I am very, very, very appreciative of the constants in my life even more than ever. Like the people who have been and people say that whole a one day one thing or they say you can't take everybody with you. What I've learned in this last two to three years is, yes, you cannot take everybody with you. What I've also learned is that we have people in your life who are there not to gain anything, who are there not to be brought along, who genuinely are just there in your life no matter where you are in your life.

You value those people, you show up for those people in any way that you can. Those people are the people that like, those are like the low maintenance relationships because they genuinely don't want anything from you, but you and wanting you requires you being okay, you showing up physically, mentally, every way that you can, the best version of yourself. That's what my family has always taught me, but that's what the constant, my constants, I call them in this episode. That's what the constant people in my life have shown me. As I meet people who have all these transactional expectations and relationships, and don't get me wrong, in the business that I work in, I understand that I have to be transactional at times as well too. It's a part of it. It comes with the territory.

It's refreshing to be around people who the transaction doesn't even exist. You're just able to exist and just be.

I'm really excited. I normally am tired and exhausted by the week on a Friday.

Y'all know I haven't been feeling the best. I had a little cold and we've been traveling from. We were in Philly with The Breakfast Club, doing a live show there.

We've been everywhere. But today, I woke up feeling so refreshed, so rejuvenated, but that's what constant people in your life do for you. I saw this post online that I wanted to share.

I follow this account. It's called the Mercer Edition. It's a magazine. It's a magazine geared towards creatives. Their definition or their bio on their social media account says, a magazine creatives actually need covering fashion and culture with a New York lens. They put up a photo of Sarah Jessica Parker with some words on it. Total meme, basically. But it's like this is the way they do their content. They'll post a graphic with their headline, and then they'll break it down more into a deeper thought. So they posted, the new cool is saying no without feeling like you owe an explanation. You're allowed to say no without explaining why? Because not everything needs to be explained. Maybe the new cool is not falling for that pressure and realizing we don't owe anyone an explanation if we choose to not participate in an idea or an event they suggested. Without boundaries, we are bound to lose our values, and over time, our self-respect. The people in your life should respect your boundaries without being asked twice. Saying no without feeling the need to explain is a boundary we all need. And when we don't have it, we lose ourselves in the process of building a life we want for ourselves. And then they go into like a full sub-stack. But I thought that that was so fitting for what I'm talking about right now, Behind the Scenes of the Grind. The constants. The constant people in your life, what I've come to realize, those people should be these exact people who understand what I just read to you. Boundaries, the ability to say no, the ability to really just protect yourself in the way that you need to be. But also, they give you the ability to not need to feel like you got to protect yourself. And I'm going to go celebrate one of my favorite one of those people this weekend. So make sure you guys cherish and value all of the people who do exactly what I just said in your life. If you're looking for a great think piece based Instagram, and they also do, they have a sub stack as well too, that keeps you updated with culture, but also real deep thoughts.