What Is Your Attachment Style & How To Fix It - Connor Beaton - #781

**Chris Williamson** (0:00)
Hello, everybody. Welcome back to the show. My guest today is Connor Beaton. He's a men's life coach, founder of ManTalks, and an author focusing on men's wellness and personal growth. Attachment styles are the hot new idea to understand how we relate and connect to others. Today, we get a great overview of the entire field, including an understanding of the limitations of attachment theory and some practical insights on how to improve yours. Expect to learn how to identify what your attachment style is, where the core of attachment comes from, which attachment style suits you most and what sort of partner you should be looking for, how to move out of an anxious attachment style, how to cope with someone who is dysregulated in their attachment, evidence-based suggestions to improve attachment and much more. I really wanted a big 30,000 foot overview, cutting through all of the BS, explaining what attachment is, helping us to understand it and giving some practical tips that you can move forward with. This is exactly the episode I wanted to get out of Connor. He has worked with thousands of men one-on-one. His wife is one of the leading marriage and family therapists in the world and they kind of know all of this stuff from the front lines. So it's very cool that we get to hear this today. I've been absolutely obsessed with Legendary Foods lately. They make the best protein sweets I've ever had. Their cinnamon protein sweet roll and strawberry protein pastry are like crack. They're literally like crack and you warm it in the microwave for about 10 seconds and it tastes phenomenal. Their macros are insane. Each of the snacks are between 150 and 220 calories and have 20 grams of protein. Do you hear me? 20 grams of protein in something that tastes like a sweet. Four to six net grams of carbs and two grams or less of sugar. Your average cinnamon roll is more than 400 calories and has 60 grams of sugar and zero protein obviously because it sucks. I love them. They help satiate my sweet tooth. They keep my gains and they make me hit my protein goals. What else do you want? Best of all, they offer free shipping on all orders over $69. Plus you can get 10% off all purchases by going to eatlegendary.com/modernwisdom and using the code modern wisdom at checkout. So if you've got a sweet tooth and you want to keep your gains, head to eatlegendary.com/modernwisdom and modern wisdom at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Manscaped. It is the best ball and body hair trimmer ever created. It's got a cutting edge ceramic blade to reduce grooming accidents and 90-minute battery so that you can take a longer shave, waterproof technology which allows you to groom in the shower and an LED light which illuminates grooming areas for a closer and more precise trim or if you're just a particularly crevice-y human. They've also got a 7,000 rpm motor with quiet stroke technology and a wireless charging system that helps the battery to last even longer. So if you or the man in your life is hairier than you would like them to be, this is a fantastic gift to get yourself or someone else. Head to manscaped.com/modernwisdom and use the code modern wisdom at checkout for 20% off plus free shipping worldwide. That's manscaped.com/modernwisdom and modern wisdom at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Shopify. Shopify is the global commerce platform that helps you sell at every stage of your business. From the launch your online shop stage to the first real life store stage, all the way to the did we just hit a million orders stage, Shopify is there to help you grow. Whether you're selling scented soap or offering outdoor outfits, Shopify helps you sell everywhere. From their all-in-one e-commerce platform to their in-person POS system, wherever and whatever you're selling, Shopify has got you covered. Shopify helps you turn browsers into buyers with the internet's best converting checkout. 36% better on average compared to other leading commerce platforms. You would be amazed at how many massive brands you love use Shopify. Gymshark, perhaps one of the biggest independent sportswear companies in the world, uses Shopify and if it is good enough for them, it is good enough for you. So if you are looking to get started at selling something online, Shopify is the easiest, quickest and most convenient way to do it. Plus you can sign up for a $1 per month trial period at shopify.com/modernwisdom, all lowercase, that's shopify.com/modernwisdom to grow your business no matter what stage you're in. But now, ladies and gentlemen, please welcome Connor Beaton.