What Do People Really Want In A Partner? - Dr Paul Eastwick - #838

**Chris Williamson** (0:00)
What's happening, people? Welcome back to the show. My guest today is Dr. Paul Eastwick. He's a psychologist, professor, and a researcher. What do people actually want in a partner compared to what they say they want? Paul is the lead author on one of the largest studies of its kind, which was just released, breaking down exactly this question. Expect to learn the number one trait people actually look for in a partner. How well people know what they want, what ideal partner preference matching is, the biases that affect mate evaluation, the sex differences in stated versus revealed preferences, whether big data could improve dating app matching and much more. A lot of uncomfortable insights today as are very publicly acceptable proclamations about what we want supposedly in a partner are ripped away from our eyes and the harsh reality comes in to smash it in the face. Really interesting, fascinating stuff. The study is massive and very impressive and Paul's great. So I really hope that you enjoy this one. This episode is brought to you by Whoop. Whoop is a 24 seven health and fitness coach that tracks your sleep, strain, recovery, stress, and more to provide personalized insights that help you reach your goals. Each morning, Whoop gives you a recovery score that acts as your daily guide for how much you should exert yourself. At the end of the day, you get a recommendation for your ideal bedtime. You can also track over 140 different habits and behaviors to see how they impact your overall health. It basically means you can stop guessing about what's happening inside of your body by wearing a small thing on your wrist that tracks absolutely everything. Plus you can join for free, pay nothing for the brand new Whoop 4 strap. Plus you get your first month for free and there's a 30 day money back guarantee. So you can buy it for free, try it for free. If you do not like it after 29 days, they will give you your money back. Right now you can get that free Whoop 4 strap and that 30 day money back guarantee by going to join.whoop.com/modernwisdom. That's join.whoop.com/modernwisdom. This episode is brought to you by 8 Sleep. I have been using my 8 Sleep mattress for years and I literally cannot imagine life without it. Having a actively cooled and heated mattress is the game changer. Now they've launched their newest generation pod, the Pod 4 Ultra. The Pod 4 Ultra can cool down each side of the bed up to 20 degrees below room temperature, keeping you and your partner cool. And for those of you who snore heavily, it can detect your snoring and automatically lift your head a few degrees to improve your airflow and stop it. This is your 3000 stuff. It cools, it heats, it elevates, and it is clinically proven to give you up to one hour more of quality sleep every night. Best of all, they ship to the United States, Canada, United Kingdom, Europe and Australia. You can get $350 off the Pod 4 Ultra by going to the link in the show notes below or heading to 8sleep.com/modernwisdomusing the code Modern Wisdom. A checkout that's E I G H T S L E E p.com/modernwisdom and Modern Wisdom. A checkout. This episode is brought to you by Element. Stop having coffee first thing in the morning. Your adenosine system that caffeine acts on isn't even active for the first 90 minutes of the day, but your adrenal system is and salt acts on your adrenal system. Element contains a science-backed electrolyte ratio of sodium, potassium and magnesium with no junk, no sugar, no coloring, artificial ingredients, gluten fillers or any other BS. It plays a critical role in reducing muscle cramps and fatigue whilst optimizing brain health, regulating appetite and curbing cravings. It's how I've started my morning every single day for over three years now and I absolutely love it. The orange flavor in a cold glass of water first thing in the morning is fantastic. It is the best way to start the day. Also, they have a no BS, no questions, ask refund policy. So if you do not like it for any reason, they will give you your money back and you don't even need to return the box. That's how confident they are that you love it. Head to drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom to get a free sample pack of all eight flavors with your first box. That's drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom.
But now, ladies and gentlemen, please welcome Dr. Paul Eastwick.
Your new study is one of the most interesting things that I think I've seen this year.

**Paul Eastwick** (4:42)
Oh good, oh good.

**Chris Williamson** (4:43)