The Version of You That's Emerging Doesn't Need Permission From the Version That's Leaving

**Matthew Gottesman** (0:02)
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Welcome to episode 833 The version of you that's emerging doesn't need permission from the version that's leaving. The version of you that's emerging doesn't need permission from the one that is leaving. You probably often heard, what got you here won't get you there. Life is always changing. We are always evolving. And whether it's a season you got very comfortable with, or a season where you just feel like this just isn't working anymore. I need to evolve. I need to go to the next steps of what I'm here to do. I need new circles. I need new, or at least to add more people to a close circle that is evolving. Or you need new environments, right? Or you want to take risk in the next stage of your business or anything like that. And often when we start to make those shifts, we can feel it internally and the voice can get loud. You know, listen, again, I often tell you lots of reasons along the way about why I grew in my faith and my relationship with God is because if I left it all up to my own mind, forget it, you know? And I like myself, I like my mind, I like the way I do things, but every now and then, oof, it messes with me. That's the human in us. And we can create resistance to change, we can create resistance to, you know, our next level or what we know we need to go do. I mean, we're all doing it in some area of our life, and that's why you have to get very good at executing the intuition. You know, when you feel the nudge, you got to make a move. And often, what stops us? Procrastination. It can come in all kinds of different voices, right? Procrastination or busyness, or responsibilities to everybody else, but something for ourselves, right? And so in this episode, I really want to focus on this idea of why growth requires replacing an identity that used to define you, even in the parts that were really good. And I want to make that distinction because oftentimes people think like, well, if things are good, why do I want to let go of that? I'm like, well, it's not necessarily about letting go of good. It's about allowing yourself to evolve. And what's natural that will stay with you and is good will evolve with you. Sometimes, some things won't. I was watching somebody talk about this online recently about how, you know, and I've mentioned this before as well, too. And he was saying how he's like, look, you know, you can outgrow people who are also good. You can outgrow jobs that are also good. You can outgrow environments that are also good. Maybe you live in a certain town and it's great, but like what you need next is another city and maybe another location. You're allowed to evolve. And so, you know, I think often we equate that it's easier when things are, you know, when you're wanting to leave certain environments that are not so good, right? I actually think it's harder when things are good, like when you've got good people around you. Now some people say, well, why would you leave them? I'm like, it's not so much about leaving, it's just about evolving. And what's good and is evolving with you will keep evolving with you sometimes. And what this guy was saying in his content was like, you know, maybe the conversations, maybe it's like he was saying, I could still look at a good friend and be like, oh, you know, that's my brother, that's my friend, but we're not talking about the same things anymore. And he's staying comfortable where he's at. He's like, but I'm building new things that aren't going to interest him. He's like, it's just like a natural part of the growth. It doesn't mean anything. He's like, it means nothing about how I feel about that individual. I want to give you also that permission that when you evolve, don't hold yourself back or, you know, look for permission from yourself and from others. You want to just keep evolving and being honest with your growth and yeah, you're going to have to navigate, you know, that. But like, it doesn't mean that you evolving means any less of good people or good places or good experiences. It just means you have to do what you have to do because you're being called, right? So in this episode, let's talk about why growth doesn't require releasing what was bad. It requires releasing what was good but no longer fits, right? It doesn't just require releasing what was bad. It requires releasing what was good but no longer fits. Let's also talk about how the version of you that's leaving quietly holds veto power over the version that's emerging. That's right. It happens. Sometimes it just happens and sometimes it's just messing with us. I'm like, why does it hold this veto power? Why is it trying to stop me? Oh, because it's not coming with me. Sometimes it's you that was good, but the old you isn't really enough for where you're going. I mean, you're always enough, but you get what I'm saying. It's like, it's, you know, I've witnessed in every aspect of my journey with my health or my finances or my work, it's always requiring that I keep evolving in it. Constantly, you keep learning new things and you keep growing at that stewardship, right? Let's also talk about why we mistake loyalty to our old identity for integrity when it's actually resistance to becoming. Maybe it's, let's also look at the specific ways we ask permission from a self that has no authority to give it.