The Unstoppable Power Of Reframing Your Experiences - Derek Sivers - #847

**Chris Williamson** (0:00)
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What do you mean when you talk about useful, not true?

**Derek Sivers** (4:06)
Oh, diving right in.
For years, I write things that are sharing my point of view on something. I share a point of view I find useful, and I state it as a fact. I say, for example, men and women are the same. And I choose that belief, for example, to counterbalance my tendency to think of men and women as more different than they actually are. So I would deliberately choose a belief that helps counteract my tendencies, right? In the same way that somebody who has a tendency to be late to things might leave, start leaving what seems unreasonably early, which helps them get there on time, right? So there are many beliefs in life that I choose as a countermeasure. But when I express this belief publicly, there was often somebody saying, but that's not true. Men and women are different. I'd say, I know it's not true. True is not the point. What the hell is true anyway? I'm choosing this belief because it's useful to me, not because it's true. And this subject came up a few times. Even when I was writing a book about business, I would say something like, marketing is just another way of being considerate. And there would always be somebody to say, hmm, well, that's not always true. And say, I know it's not true, but this is a nicer way of thinking of marketing. Instead of thinking like, how can I annoy people and spam them? If you think of marketing as whatever you're doing to be considerate, to help people remember you, to help people find you, it's a better way of thinking about it. I find it more useful to think that way. So I realized there was a theme underneath my previous four books, which is that I choose beliefs because they're useful, not because they're necessarily true.