The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck | Mark Manson

Mark Manson (0:00)

It's not my job to tell people what their values should be. My job is to simply help them ask better questions, define their values themselves. I don't want to push my philosophy or how I see the world onto anybody, because I feel like that undermines the power of the message, which is, no, you have to choose yourself. You have to choose what you care about.

You have to, you have no choice, it's like human being 101

Michael Gervais (0:38)

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Now, this week's conversation is with Mark Manson. The number one New York Times bestselling author of Everything Is Fucked, a book about hope. And also he's a writer and author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, a counterintuitive approach to living a good life. And that is a mega bestseller that reached number one in 14 different countries.

So how do you do it? You hit a chord and that chord is one of truth. And there is a methodology to get down into the truth. It involves examination, it involves conversation, it involves introspection. And I mean, think about this, Mark's books, they've been translated into more than 50 languages and have sold over 12 million copies worldwide.