The Secret to A More Adaptable, Flexible, Resilient Child #642

Kirk Martin (0:00)

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So I love when I check my email, and there's a great message from this dad who said, I listened to your podcast on the way home from work, I listened to the back off and shut up one, and I walked in the door, our son was in all kinds of drama going on, and I looked at my wife and said, is this one of those times where I need to back off and shut up? And she looked at me like, now you're getting it, right? Like don't escalate things right now. Let's come in, deescalate, and we back off from trying to control his emotions and control ours instead. That is beautiful. And so this couple now has a little code word, which I love code words in the home, which is BOSU, because you know those exercise BOSU balls? Well, BOSU is back off, shut up. And so they don't have to tell each other to shut up anymore. They just said, hey, it might be a good time to go work on the BOSU ball. So I want to keep digging into this backing off thing. And I have a lot of new comments that have come in from parents in the past couple of days. I want to incorporate in this. So that is what we're going to discuss on this episode of the Calm Parenting Podcast. So welcome. This is Kirk Martin, founder of Celebrate Calm. You can find us in our Back to School sale at celebratecalm.com. So let me hit on some generic things and I'll get into some very specific examples. Backing off, if you have toddlers, I want you to know their job is to be curious and explore and make messes and ruin your agenda. Please chill a little bit with your toddlers.