The Exact Episode You Need to Hear Today if You Feel Overwhelmed, Stressed, or Stuck

**Mel Robbins** (0:00)
Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to The Mel Robbins Podcast.
You made it here.
You can exhale.
Seriously. Take a breath. In fact, I'm going to do it with you right now.
Drop your shoulders.
Don't you need that? Because if you've been walking around with a tight chest, short fuse or nonstop thoughts spinning in your head, this episode is your permission slip to stop holding it all together for just a minute. If you've been feeling overwhelmed lately, like snapping faster, shutting down quicker, overthinking everything, carrying stress in your body like it's a second job, you are not alone. You're human. Here's the hard truth. There is so much you cannot control. You can't control other people or the headlines, or what your partner says, or the mood your boss is in, or how fast the world is changing. But you can control how you show up in the middle of it. That's why I am so excited about today's episode. We have therapist Kier Gaines in the house. If you do not know who he is, oh my gosh. I am one of his biggest fans. I've been sending this man's videos to my team for over 18 months, saying get him on the show. He is finally here. You are going to love him. Kier is a licensed therapist and one of my favorite voices online. What does he talk about? Oh, how to handle life, how to handle relationships, how to handle yourself, especially when everything is coming at you. He has the kind of wisdom. It's like talking to a good friend and a storyteller who's also a therapist. He reminds you that you're human, you're laughing as you're learning, you're like, how did you get in my head? Are you in the bedroom as I'm arguing with my, what is going on, Kier? How do you know me? He is truly incredible and I cannot wait for you to not only meet him, but what you're going to learn today is exactly what you need to hear right now.
Hey, it's your friend Mel and welcome to The Mel Robbins Podcast. I am extra excited that you are here today. This is a winner of an episode and look, it's always an honor to be together and to spend time with you. I also wanted to say if you're a new listener or you're here because somebody shared this with you, I just want to take a moment and personally welcome you to The Mel Robbins Podcast family and tell you, this is an amazing thing you're going to experience because today, we've got the incredible Kier Gaines on the show. Now, Kier Gaines is a licensed therapist and a mental health advocate. He just has this rare gift because he explains emotions and relationships in a way that makes you feel seen, not judged. Then he gives you tools that you can use immediately. He also brings in all these examples and stories. You're going to be like, how are you in my head? Now, I've been following his work for years because in the absolute madness of the world today, Kier Gaines is a lighthouse. But don't take it from me. His millions of followers love the way he breaks down mental health in a way that's understandable, clear, frankly, kind of cool, and it just makes sense, especially on the topics of relationships. I swear to gosh, as you've listened to this, you're going to be like, are you in my marriage right now? What is going on here? He talks about emotions in a way that's not soft and weird. He's going to teach you how to be powerful. We're also going to touch on masculinity. This is what every man in your life needs to hear. He is the author of the brand new book. I'm calling it now, it is going to be a blockbuster. It all starts when you do. I got an advance copy. It is fantastic. Kier Gaines, it is an absolute pleasure to welcome you to The Mel Robbins Podcast.

**Kier Gaines** (4:13)
Absolutely crazy. Thank you for having me. Thank you for having me and your beautiful staff welcome me in. It feels like a very warm place. It's warm and inviting.

**Mel Robbins** (4:23)
It is.

**Kier Gaines** (4:23)
Yeah, I like that.

**Mel Robbins** (4:24)
Yeah, it is. That's how I roll through life. I think that there's a lot of people, or at least I used to be this way, I would wake up in a bad mood.
And at times in my life, there was a particular reason why, but I think it became a habit to wake up and be in a bad mood for no particular reason. And so I decided that I would just become the kind of person that went through life with an optimistic, warm and positive outlook. And it really started to shift everything.