Stop Wasting Your Energy: How to Deal With People Who Won’t Change & What to Do Instead

**Mel Robbins** (0:00)
Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to The Mel Robbins Podcast.
Oh, you're going to love the episode today, because today you and I are going to learn how to deal with the people in your life who won't change. I mean, we love these people, but they're so frustrating, right? I know you're sick of it, I'm sick of it. Aren't you sick of wasting your time and energy trying to push other people to be better? Of course you are.
Today, you're going to learn a different approach. You're going to learn how to use the research to pull the people you love toward the changes that you want to see, and they're not even going to know you're doing it.
Dr. Dolly Chugh is here in our Boston studios. She is a social psychologist with three degrees from Harvard. She's also an award-winning professor at NYU Stern School of Business. Her entire field of expertise is studying why people won't change, and more importantly, how to effectively move someone else toward changing. So if you're in a frustrating pattern with someone that you love, you are listening to the exact episode that you need to hear. You're going to love this because there's so many takeaways that you and I can apply immediately. In fact, Dr. Chugh is going to say, there's only three things that you can do that will inspire someone else to change, just three. And if you're like me, you're going to realize, you're probably not doing any of these three things. You're doing the things that don't work.
After listening today, you will finally break free from the endless frustrating cycle of fighting, nagging, and lecturing the people you care about. And you know what you're going to feel? Peace and power. And if you apply what Dr. Chugh is about to teach you today, you may just see the people that you care about finally change.
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Hey, it's your friend Mel and welcome to The Mel Robbins Podcast. I am so excited for the conversation today. It's such an honor to be together and to spend this time with you. And if you're a new listener, you're here because somebody shared this with you. I just wanna take a moment to personally welcome you to The Mel Robbins Podcast family. Today, you and I are talking all about how you deal with people in your life who will not change. You're gonna learn how to stop wasting your energy. And more importantly, you're gonna know exactly what to do to inspire the changes you wanna see in other people. You're gonna love this. Dr. Dolly Chugh is an award-winning social psychologist, behavioral scientist, a professor at NYU Stern School of Business, and her classes are so popular, they're nearly impossible to get into. Dr. Chugh is also a best-selling author who's earned three degrees from Harvard, an MBA, a master's in psychology, and her PhD in social psychology and organizational behavior. Today, she is here in our Boston studios to unpack the science that's gonna help you break free from the frustrating cycle of trying to push other people that you love to change, because there's a better way. So how about you and I learn it? Please help me welcome Dr. Dolly Chugh to The Mel Robbins Podcast.