Sarah Shahi On Reinventing Yourself, Building Self-Worth, & Thriving Through Life's Biggest Changes

**Michael Bosstick** (0:01)
Welcome to The Bossticks.
Starring Lauryn Bosstick and Michael Bosstick. Together, they are The Bossticks.

**Lauryn Bosstick** (0:14)
Is there no more actors that are allowed on your dating Rolodex?

**Sarah Shahi** (0:19)
Is that true? It is true if all they do is act. So like, you have, because I've entered a space that's become very entrepreneurial, like with the book and, you know, speaking engagements and I got a really beautiful reception while I was on tour.
So it's, and I also write, obviously, but writing scripts now and so it's like, I don't have too much idle time and the thing that drives me bonkers about actors is all the free time that they have. And so I'm just like, if that's all you do is like act, unless you're Jacob Elordi, you know what I mean? Unless you're like Jacob Elordi and the phone's like ringing off the hook, then that's a different story. But if you're just like an actor for hire and you're waiting for the phone to ring, you're not getting my number.

**Michael Bosstick** (1:05)
It's not happening.

**Lauryn Bosstick** (1:06)
Is there a stereotype for actors though, their personality wise?

**Sarah Shahi** (1:09)
Lazy.

**Lauryn Bosstick** (1:11)
La la la la la la lazy.

**Michael Bosstick** (1:13)
So what if they're like fly fishing on the weekend? Is that enough or you need to be a little more?

**Sarah Shahi** (1:17)
I like fly fishing. I like fly fishing. I've been fly fishing. No, that's cool, but I need something else for that Monday through Friday.

**Michael Bosstick** (1:26)
Okay. They can't just be loafing around the house waiting for a...

**Sarah Shahi** (1:29)
No, they can't be waiting for the phone to ring or redo the house. Do something to the house, like pick up carpentry. I need...
Can I just dump all my trauma on you guys? Be useful.

**Michael Bosstick** (1:43)
That's what people do. They come here.

**Sarah Shahi** (1:43)
That's the thing is it feels like such a...
Yeah, there's just not enough. You need to get your hands dirty. I need some calluses. I need dirty fingernail.

**Michael Bosstick** (1:53)
Do actors have soft hands?

**Sarah Shahi** (1:54)
Yeah.

**Lauryn Bosstick** (1:55)
A callus is very hot.

**Michael Bosstick** (1:56)
I got the calluses.

**Lauryn Bosstick** (1:57)
I like a callus on a guy. That's a good thing to ask someone, let me see your hands.

**Sarah Shahi** (2:01)
Yeah.

**Lauryn Bosstick** (2:01)
And you can check their calluses.

**Sarah Shahi** (2:02)
And then I'll take a look at something else.

**Lauryn Bosstick** (2:04)
Yeah, check their hands. Check the hands.

**Sarah Shahi** (2:06)
And then check the size of their hands.

**Lauryn Bosstick** (2:10)
Calluses.
So if you're manifesting in this new phase in your life, that you're entering, because it seems like you've like, I feel like you got it together. It seems like it.

**Sarah Shahi** (2:23)
Looks can be deceiving.

**Lauryn Bosstick** (2:24)
But no, I just mean like, I feel like you're in the pocket.

**Sarah Shahi** (2:27)
Yeah, yeah.
I do feel like, yeah, I've landed. Like I feel like, you know, I had a breakup last year and the day after my dog died, my dog got eaten by a coyote and I heard it. I heard it. So there was these two very traumatic events like kind of piggybacked on each other in my mind for a long time. And so I was deeply in transition. And I feel like I've reached a phase now where, you know, it's like I've landed. Like I finally have two feet on the ground and I'm just seeing what that looks like for myself. That's where I feel like I am.

**Michael Bosstick** (3:03)
That happened to me when I was a kid. Dog got eaten by a coyote. It's terrible.

**Sarah Shahi** (3:06)
It's horrible.

**Michael Bosstick** (3:07)
They eat them terribly.

**Sarah Shahi** (3:09)
Yeah, no, it's horrible. Yeah.

**Lauryn Bosstick** (3:12)
I do feel though, it feels like you're in alignment.

**Michael Bosstick** (3:16)
Oh, I love that.

**Lauryn Bosstick** (3:17)
Like when I read your book. It feels like...

**Sarah Shahi** (3:19)
Thank you.

**Lauryn Bosstick** (3:19)
When it feels like... Please correct me if I'm wrong, but when you were going through your divorce and you were in this marriage and we're going to get to that, it seemed like you didn't feel in alignment and you fixed that, which is inspiring to a lot of women.

**Sarah Shahi** (3:31)
Yeah, it's one of those things where I just feel like, and this is where you really have to trust the timing of your life. Like I even say in the book, I'm like, God never puts the stars in the wrong place.