Reflecting On My Mental Flaws & Strengths - #263

**Chris Williamson** (0:00)
Hello, beautiful people. Welcome back. My guest today is me, kind of. Charlotte Fox-Weber is a psychotherapist, past Modern Wisdom guest, and she's been talking to me for a little while about turning the mic around and asking me some questions about my own internal state, what my strengths and flaws are, why I am the way I am, why I do what I do. And I thought, given that the end of the year tends to be an interesting time for us all to reflect on where we're at, that this could be quite an interesting and timely insight into someone that you listen to speaking in your ears a couple of hours a week. It was definitely a change of pace for me, and there was sections of the podcast where I really had to kind of open up a lot, a lot more than I have done previously, but it felt really nice. I'm more than happy to be the person who does this and opens up about vulnerabilities and flaws and strengths and all the internal monologue stuff, because I think that it's very important for all of us to hear something on the internet that isn't just someone saying, look at how cool I am, look at how good and resilient and robust and indestructible and progressed from last year I am. So hopefully you'll take a lot away from today. I really enjoyed the process. Charlotte's like phenomenal at what she does. And we talk a lot about turning mental flaws into strengths, about overcoming past traumas from our childhood.
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Welcome back, you are so much less super pregnant than the last time that we spoke.

**Charlotte Fox-Weber** (3:50)
It's a pleasure to be here, and I'm happy to not be pregnant, although I have a beautiful baby from it.

**Chris Williamson** (3:56)
You got a baby out of it, yeah, but you're just like now half the size.

**Charlotte Fox-Weber** (4:02)
Thank you.

**Chris Williamson** (4:03)
So what are we doing today? You wanted to do this thing, you said, I have an idea for an episode, I wanna come on and talk to you.

**Charlotte Fox-Weber** (4:08)
Absolutely, I have a real interest in understanding the life of a podcaster and you're a particularly good one. I shouldn't just generalize it as the life of a podcaster because there are so many and that doesn't narrow it down enough. You ask exceptional questions, you are constantly curious, I would say curiosity must be a driving force for you. What is it like to be a question asker, a seeker, a constant conversationalist? I wanna get into your mind. I'm curious for what it says about you psychologically. I think that there are certain similarities between how you approach things and my work as a psychotherapist, trying to understand, inquiring, probing, looking at what's underneath, engaging intensely, wholeheartedly. But it can also be a way of avoiding and not disclosing. So I'm here to challenge you in a way, because we've had some very interesting exchanges and conversations and I just want to turn it around because that's what I do.