Q&A: Becoming A Dad, Favourite Peptides & Red Rising - #1134

**Chris Williamson** (0:00)
Hello friends, welcome back to the show. It is another Q&A episode. And as is tradition, I've asked for questions from Twitter and YouTube community and Instagram. But I also know that you guys have wanted more Q&As. With that in mind, if you go to chriswillex.com/stories, you can submit any story, question, life hack, problem that you're dealing with. You can even submit a voicemail. And I am going to use that to speak to guests. I'm actually gonna put some of these stories across to guests. So maybe if you submit some business nightmare that you're going through at the moment, Alex Hormozi will react to it, or Jimmy Carr can roast your most recent horrible first date. chriswillex.com/stories, that's always gonna be open. But if you dump them in straight away, maybe you'll get to be on one of the first episodes that we do this with. So that's always on. But given that it's a Q&A episode, let's get into it. Bryson Rebels, many of us are becoming sick of the self-improvement space. What's your take on this? Dude, I've been feeling this murmuring for a while. I licked my finger and put it in the air and I felt the winds are changing. I don't know what it's due to. Maybe it's an uncertain future, AI coming to take everybody's jobs, geopolitical uncertainty. But I know exactly what you mean. There is this self-improvement fatigue that a lot of people are dealing with and also very grind, sloppy content of fuck your feelings, just work harder. A lot of the time that feels like burden, homework, overwhelm, and I think people, they just need a little bit of a break. One of the reasons that I'm doing more roundtable episodes and just hangs with the boys is, I feel like that sneaks some of the self-improvement desire in, but in a wrapper that doesn't make you feel so much like it's a task that you have to complete, like another to-do list. Sometimes you listen to a pod and you're like, that's so amazing, but you feel guilty because you haven't made an anky flashcards or put a ton of notes down in your Apple notes for it.
Another interesting insight I learned was that in 2020, the biggest financial niches were all slow investment, 401k, dollar cost averaging, S&P. This year, over the last 12 months, the biggest financial niches have all been get rich quick, make money in no time, call she polymarkets, like vibe betting your way to a quick million dollars. I wonder whether this short term missed change is contributing to this desire to maybe not think so long-termism from a self-improvement standpoint. I don't know, but I feel it and I'm trying to create the balance. The show has always been about helping people to understand themselves and the world around them, but also delivering that in a way that's like, I can just sit back and relax. The episode with Alex Petkus, two, two and a half hours about the Odyssey is straight fire. Like you don't need to remember anything that he said. You can just sit back and enjoy an amazing retelling of the Odyssey by a guy with a beautiful voice for two and a half hours and be like, oh, I don't feel like I wasted my time. I do feel like I learned a lot, but I don't feel now like I'm obliged to go and change my entire life in future. I'm gonna keep on trying to walk that line. I'm glad that you brought it up. I think a lot of people, even me, even I'm feeling this way, right? I'm the tip of the fucking spear of this stuff. So I'm gonna try and help as best I can.
Yanda03x, how do you know when it's time to break up with your partner? I'm currently in a relationship with someone who has a really good work ethic and is constantly busy chasing his dreams, which kinda leaves me feeling lonely 90% of the time. I want to be supportive, but it is hard to be when you're constantly questioning whether your partner still wants this, or if he is using busy as an excuse to not spend time with you. Well, I'm sorry that you're going through that. I...
it kind of doesn't matter whether he still wants this or is using busy, because either way, you still feel lonely 90% of the time. I don't think that you should be trying to use your brain to convince your heart and your gut, and your body and your emotions, that you feel a different way to the way that you feel. So much of relationships, especially uncertainty around leaving relationships, is you trying to convince yourself that not feeling good is okay. Well, look at all of the reasons why I should be, okay, he's got a great work ethic, he's chasing his dreams, and yet I feel lonely. This presumably is a guy that's reliable and hardworking and stuff. All of these things are great, but you feel lonely 90 percent of the time.