Oz Pearlman: How To "Read" Minds, Influence Anyone, and Never Fear Rejection

**Oz Pearlman** (0:00)
How to convince people and how to win them over is the most important thing in life.

**Sam Parr** (0:03)
How did you do that?

**Oz Pearlman** (0:04)
There's skills that have nothing to do with my tricks, that allow me to walk into a room, be remembered, engage with people, and create deeper bonds. Those three things are a cheat code in life. But I would say 90% of people don't have that. So how do you develop that?

**Sam Parr** (0:20)
How do you explain what you do?

**Oz Pearlman** (0:21)
Everyone knows that a magician is. Think of this as a magician of the mind. There are no props. Rather than tell you here, pick a card, you put it back and I find it.

**Sam Parr** (0:30)
So intimidating. You are a horrible herring. Are there any cool crimes that you could commit?

**Oz Pearlman** (0:35)
So if I was using this to steal your financial information and then use it to potentially steal from you, could I do that? Absolutely. Could I absolutely?
Watch, let's try something really fun. Time for money. This is the perfect example. Let's say, what is life about, right? Is it having more zeros in your bank account? My first million. I like the two commas. But where do you spend that money? How do you use it effectively? Here's what we do. You're having a birthday party. We're going to hypothetically play this out right now. Milestone birthday. Sam, make this up right now. I like spontaneity. How many guests are in the room at your birthday party? Be very specific. How many guests do you see being there? Can I tell you? Yeah, make it up right now. Oh, so it was ten people. Ten people. And did everyone that you invited attend? No. Oh, okay. Ouch. Okay. So you're in the room and now this is where I want to envision this. We're going to play this scenario out because you've had birthday parties before. And obviously you've seen, you walk in the room, you're saying hi. It's ten people. And this is, close your eyes. Is it a surprise? Not a surprise. Is it?

**Sam Parr** (1:47)
Yes.

**Oz Pearlman** (1:48)
But okay. So you've walked around the room, you've said hi to people and open your eyes. And this is where I tell you, I say, one person you walk up to, they give you a big old hug and it means a lot that you're here right now. And you look this person in the face. Can you picture that person's face?

**SPEAKER_3** (2:01)
Yes.

**Oz Pearlman** (2:03)
Could I have known that you were going to tell me there were ten people at the birthday party?

**Sam Parr** (2:07)
I don't know.

**Oz Pearlman** (2:07)
But did I tell you to set this up? Is there any way I could have known how many people you'd have at this party or who they would be?

**Sam Parr** (2:13)
Of course not.

**Oz Pearlman** (2:13)
How? Right? How? And then the person that would hug you, right? How could we know this? If they had a birthday party, a milestone, would you attend their party?

**Sam Parr** (2:24)
For a really big one.

**Oz Pearlman** (2:25)
That's interesting how you thought for a really big one. I wonder if they live far away. And in your mind, you were thinking, have I been to their party before? Watch this. Let's switch it. Some of you just came up. They hugged you at your birthday party. It could have been anyone. You looked them in the eye. You were thinking in your head, would I go to their birthday party? And I saw, I know you know this person's birthday. Instantly I could tell. Try not to react. January, February, March, April, May, June, July, August, September, October, November, December. Close your eyes. Okay, I'm gonna just show the camera.
Open your eyes. There is absolutely no way I could know who you would have thought of. Are we in agreement?

**Sam Parr** (3:06)
Yeah.

**Oz Pearlman** (3:07)
Or anything about them, personal details. What month is that person born in?

**Sam Parr** (3:11)
July.

**Oz Pearlman** (3:11)
July, July. July has 31 days. I'm born in July. That's my birthday month. Think beginning, middle, end, beginning, middle, end. Close your eyes one more time. So nobody, okay. I'm going to go with this. I'm going to go with this. I'm going to commit.
I think it's a guy. Open your eyes. In fact, when you looked at them, you looked up directly at them, similar height. Are they older than you?

**Sam Parr** (3:32)
They're older than me.

**Oz Pearlman** (3:33)