Never fight with a Narcissist: DO THIS & Take Your Power back! | Dr. Ramani PT 2 (Fan Fave)

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**Lisa Bilyeu** (0:30)
What up, guys? We're back with two parts of this unbelievable conversation with my girl, Dr. Ramani, where she's sharing with us her cheat sheet, if you will, of all her best strategies and tactics for dealing with the relentless manipulation and games that a narcissist will play.
Now, the odds are you've encountered a narcissist before in your life, and whether it's someone in the workplace or someone in your home, whether it's family or a significant other, each encounter with them can make you question your worth, ignore the warning signs and even give up your power to them. But my girl Dr. Ramani is here to help us learn how to effectively deal with the charm and lack of empathy of a narcissist, why it's so important to listen to your body's response, which is something we sometimes ignore, and her three steps to narcissist's resistance so that you can finally break free from their abuse. The reality is, guys, is that the narcissist will never change. Just like a leopard, it doesn't change its spots. So it's up to you to make a change and take your power back so you can live the life you want without losing your confidence or losing who you are. I'm your host, Lisa Bilyeu, and this is Women of Impact. Let's dive in right now. Guys, if you're listening to this, the one thing I do ask is, would you mind just dropping a rate and a review? You have no idea how much this means to me, the podcast, the growth and spreading the word of Women of Impact. I know, I know, all of us podcasters ask for a rating review, but I'm telling you, if you're listening to this right now, if this episode is bringing you value, the value that you can bring back is by rating review. And that's how it actually gets spread. So my homie, let's get to number one on the podcast list with your help right now, drop in a rate and review. Thank you. And now let's get to the episode. That's so interesting, the power piece about that people think they would rather leave because you feel like you're taking your power back.
And I would assume that in having the narcissist leave the relationship, it's almost like serving their part of another character that you talk about is their need for dominance and their need for the power. So they feel good about it because they feel like they have the dominance and power. And so you're almost giving them what they want, so they never have to come back and-

**Ramani Durvasula** (2:43)
Correct. Well, I'll tell you an interesting way to think about it.
I'm always amazed, Lisa, at how much people don't understand how divorces work. I really am. Like, you know, when you rent a car, there's like, you read the things, like, okay, if I go through a toll, I have to pay this much- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Nice rental car people give you that contract. You can even read it ahead of time. You're like, okay, got it, got it, got it. Nobody reads that fine print on marriage. They don't. And I think it's because we don't really give them the fine print on marriage. And as a result, most people don't understand how a divorce works. They don't understand community property. They don't understand prenuptial agreements. They don't understand custody. They don't understand any of it. Okay. Least of all the narcissists who are all so entitled that somehow they don't think that the divorce laws of their state apply to them. So this is something I've seen happen many times.
The narcissistic person gets married. They don't have a prenuptial agreement. They find new supply. They get caught. Relationship falls apart, okay? And the narcissist is like, to hell with it, I'm out. I'm leaving. They've got their new supply and all of that.
And then they read the fine print. The divorce attorney says, okay, well, the value of your house is this, and that's half of this, and the retirement account this, and the person's like, wait a minute, wait a minute, wait a minute. You're telling me I have to give this person I was married to all this money? And the attorney's like, yeah. I guess that's how the divorce works in most states. We're in California, I can only speak, that's the only laws I've ever had to, my clients have gone through. So yeah, you're going to have to pay this money. And the narcissistic person's like, well, that's not fair. And the guy's like, you married this person, right? The attorney's like, you married this person, you signed a piece of paper, you married them. This is what you agreed to. I didn't agree to this. Yeah, you did. When you married them, it's a legal contract, okay?