My DNA test EXPOSED a family secret… so I confronted my mother! -r/relationships | Reddit Stories | EP3083

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Hey, this is Riley. And this is Dakota, your favorite OK Storytime host. And we've got some great stories coming up.

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My DNA test exposed a family secret, so I confronted my mother. How could you? I, 21 female, am from a family of five, mom and dad, and two older brothers. Me and one of my older brothers are mixed, black and white.

While my oldest brother is white and their biological child. Interestingly, my mother is the mother of all three of us biologically. Obviously, I noticed from a young age, and I was told that my dad, who is white, adopted us.

SPEAKER_4 (0:41)

And you never, like, put it together?

SPEAKER_3 (0:44)

You never fact-checked that?

SPEAKER_4 (0:45)

That's your oldest brother, who is their biological child, and then you guys are all related to your mom. You never put it together what that would mean?

SPEAKER_1 (0:55)

I mean, recessive genes exist.

SPEAKER_4 (0:57)

Yeah, so recessive that he's not your dad.

SPEAKER_3 (1:00)

When I was 11, I had the nerve to ask more, because the whole thing did not make sense to me, and my parents explained that my dad was infertile after an accident, and they opted to get a donation.

SPEAKER_4 (1:12)

Okay, okay, that's actually a pretty reasonable answer.

I don't think it's the true one, but I think it's reasonable. Sounds pretty good.

SPEAKER_3 (1:19)

This is probably 100% true, as I can still see the scar on my dad's stomach and he walks with a limp. When I got older, I asked, why are me and my brother black? They told me that it was actually a mix-up at the doctor's office, and they didn't want to make a big deal about it, because they didn't want my brother or I to feel less loved because of our skin color.

They just reused the other embryos when they had me two years later. When I was younger, the story made sense, but now that I am older, I am so skeptical. I should start out by saying that my mom and dad are amazing to me. They treat us no different than my oldest brother, and my dad is even eager to help me discover my African culture. When I got really into it in high school, both of my brothers are great too.

By the way, this comes from throwaway Black Eris, and if you want to submit your own stories, go to the rslashokstorytime subreddit. I'm Savannah. I'm Sophia.

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I'm Dakota.

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And we're here to give you some good advice in a little goofy way, but we don't have all the answers. We don't only tell you what we would do, but let us know what you would do down in the comments.

However, I am a biology student in college now, and I decided to get one of those 23andMe tests for me and my brother out of curiosity.

SPEAKER_1 (2:37)

Never do that, because then people have your genetic information and it can be sold to like the government or like whoever. Don't do that.

I'm just putting it out there. Don't do that.

SPEAKER_4 (2:47)

They got everything.

SPEAKER_3 (2:48)

I got one for my brother because I was curious about the information from the Y chromosome.

I asked him to keep this a secret from my parents because while they answered my initial questions, they always pushed back when I inquired further. The results of this test were surprising to say the least. Sure enough, we had the same mother and all of the same maternal family members, but we were biologically just half siblings, which means we have different biological fathers. When I told my brothers this information, he was angry at me and told me to just leave this alone. He thinks what I am doing could destroy the family and wants no part of it.

SPEAKER_4 (3:27)

I mean, it could.

SPEAKER_3 (3:28)

Well, I had five half siblings, which I initially thought was evidence of a baby juice donation. It would make sense.

But after getting contact with one of my half siblings, I find out that she still lived with my presumptive bio dad. Luckily, the guy was not married or anything, and he agreed to talk to me. And what he said sort of shocked me.

SPEAKER_4 (3:51)

Uh-oh.

SPEAKER_2 (3:52)

Oh, no.

SPEAKER_3 (3:55)

He said he had never been to a baby juice bank, but he had a lot of girlfriends, and it's possible one of them got pregnant. To be honest, I ghosted him shortly after the call because he seemed like a complete a-hole.