MIL Was Plotting With My Husband To Get Her Into The Delivery Room Against My Wishes!

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Hey, Waffle Gang, I do hope you are well. My name is Mark, and today we're checking out some more Reddit Stories. And if you do love a Reddit Story, why not consider hitting the like, subscribe, maybe that notification bell too. And let's crack on with today's first story. Much love, guys. Now, today's first story comes from RuinBirthThrowaway from the Am I the Arsehole Hears subreddit. And it says, Am I the arsehole for running away to give birth? I23female and my husband 25male had been together for four years, married for two, and we were expecting our first child. My relationship with my mother-in-law was never amazing, but before this, she always kept to herself, and so did I. And for the record, my relationship with my husband's father and brother was always really good. When I got pregnant, I told my husband that I wanted to keep it a secret for at least the three-month Mark, because my own mother miscarried five times in between my and my younger siblings, so I thought that this fact could affect my pregnancy. And because I remember the heartbreak of my mom losing all those babies, I didn't want my families to feel it. He totally agreed and even said it would be our cool little secret.

Two days after I told him, I got a text from my mother-in-law, saying that she knew it was a girl, and that it was selfish of me to keep the news of her baby girl away from her and her family.

Just for the record, I was around four weeks pregnant at that point, so I had no idea about the sex myself, so I didn't know where that came from. I confronted my husband, to what he replied, you are not expecting me to hide this from my mom, right? She deserves to know, it's my child too.

I was furious and didn't talk with him for around a week after this. Needless to say, in the week after this incident, everyone already knew I was pregnant, and people were even mad at me for wanting privacy on this.

Then the harassment from my mother-in-law started.

At around four months, me and my husband went to visit my family and left my mother-in-law responsible for watering the plants. When we came back, a whole nursery was made, all pink with the name Olga Bertha painted on the wall. Keep in mind that I had no idea about the gender still, and of course, this was an extreme privacy violation. Had a harsh conversation with her. She cried and then my husband was mad because I was mean to his mom. But this was just the beginning of the harassment. She was sending me articles every day about the bad effects of working out during pregnancy, criticizing what I had for each meal, started crying because I want to exclusively breastfeed. She literally said, leading my baby is critical bonding moment, you're stealing that from me. Not wanting visitors for one month and then the delivery room. To sum it up, she wanted to be there. I said, no, I only wanted my husband there. She seemed a little hurt, but never talked about that again, until my husband was showering and a message from her popped up. We had a lunch date on that day, so I assumed it was the location and I opened it, just to find hundreds of messages of their plan on how she would get in the delivery room, but I was too tired to argue and see her baby being born.

I cried a lot when I was alone, not going to lie to you guys, but then I made peace with it. On that Monday, I told him I was going to spend some days with my parents and if something happened, I would tell him. I drove from North Carolina to Florida, where my family is. Got into labor, gave birth with my mom and my two sisters in the room to a healthy baby boy without my husband's knowledge.

Now to the present. My son is now two weeks old and I finally told my husband what I did. He's driving down here and yelled at me for giving birth without telling him, for not including him on the birth certificate or name choice, and keeps saying that he and his mom will sue me. Am I the asshole here for running away to give birth?

It seems to be a lot of comment about the name in the nursery. Olga Bertha was not what was written, but close enough. Olga is the fake version of my mother-in-law's name and Bertha of my mother-in-law's mother. About the two weeks of not telling him, we were not on good terms, just texting, so it was not hard to hide honestly.