Jay’s Must-Listens: The Biggest Lessons From 10 of Our Most Inspiring Conversations

**Jay Shetty** (0:00)
Hey, everyone, welcome back to On Purpose. Before we get into today's episode, I just want to take a moment to acknowledge this community we've built here on YouTube. When we started this journey, the intention was simple, to create a space where we could all feel less alone, where wisdom felt practical and conversations explored what it really means to live with purpose. And you turned that into something far bigger than I ever imagined. The community we built together became a place of learning, reflection, and genuine connection. Now, this isn't a goodbye to YouTube. It's a new chapter in how we share these conversations.
You'll be able to watch our full video interviews on Netflix and Spotify video, and we'll continue showing up here on YouTube in new ways as we keep building this community together.
The heart of this has never changed. It's always been about helping you live a life that feels more intentional, more meaningful, and more true to who you are. I'm deeply grateful you've been a part of this, and I can't wait to continue this journey together. It's just the beginning. Today's episode felt like the perfect moment to look back.
This is a collection of some of the most powerful conversations we've shared over the years. The moments that challenged us, shifted us, and stayed with us. Let's dive in.

**Benny Blanco** (1:23)
I think to myself, I'm like, how can I make Selena's day better?
What can I do in my day to make her day better? Because then that makes my day better. I wanted to find a person like that. I know when Selena wakes up, the first thing she's thinking is, how can I make his day better? We have such a give and take. I could never even see a world where I would ever yell at her. She would ever yell at me. We don't argue like that. I feel like we just have conversations. There's never an argument. Sometimes she'll say, this is so funny. Oh, boy.

**Jay Shetty** (1:55)
No, no, no.

**Benny Blanco** (1:56)
She'll do this and it's really cool. I'm feeling a little irritated and I think I need like 25 minutes.
And I'll say, okay. And then I give her her space. And then after like five minutes, she texts me, she's like, hey, will you come back?
But it's knowing that and we have the proper boundaries set with each other. Like, I don't have to be on top of her every second. She doesn't have to be on top of me every second we're together. I just want to know she's in the house so I can say like, hey, I love you. And then go back to what I'm doing. You know what I mean? Because look, we're both highly independent people. Okay. But we're both little mushes who just need to be attached.

**Selena Gomez** (2:36)
Yeah, we are so cheesy. It's so fun.

**Jay Shetty** (2:40)
I love the maturity. I mean, hearing you both talk about it.

**Selena Gomez** (2:43)
Yes. But let's be clear, we are not the perfect.

**Jay Shetty** (2:46)
No, no, no. It's not perfect. We're so silly. No, but you're disagreeing. No, no, no. But I think the maturity of... And I agree with you. I think that's actually the difference. And I'm glad you brought that up. I think there's a big difference between maturity and perfection. Perfection is saying we never have a disagreement. We never have to take space from each other.
Which you're not saying. You're saying, hey, I just asked for 25 minutes space. And then I was like, wait a minute, I need you. And I think there's a maturity in that because it requires maturity from both parts for you to first say, hey, I need space. For you to say, I get it, I respect you. And then for you to have the maturity to say, actually, I want you back. And for you to be like, not like, oh, I told you so. For you to be like, I'm here for you.
That's not perfection. To me, that's maturity. And I think that's, I really want people to get that from it. That you are going to have disagreements. You are going to want space. Like me and Rali went through that. She, at the beginning of our relationship, if we had a disagreement and we were the same, we made a rule that we would never raise our voices at each other because I came from a home where it was not great. She comes from a home where her parents don't raise their voices. But I was just like, I never wanted that in my home. I wanted the energy of my home to be so sacred. And I wanted the energy of the home to always have a space where everyone just walked in and felt like a warm hug. And I was like, we can't argue and then expect that to happen.