James Sexton, Rick Glassman, Matt McCusker - Mostly Wise #4 - #1156

Chris Williamson (0:00)

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Rick Glassman (0:21)

You're like a regular here now.

Matt McCusker (0:23)

Yeah, man.

Rick Glassman (0:23)

Congratulations on the gig, man.

Chris Williamson (0:25)

Appreciate it.

Rick Glassman (0:25)

Is he paying you?

Matt McCusker (0:27)

We figured it out. They don't worry about it, man.

James Sexton (0:28)

He only comes with council president.

Matt McCusker (0:30)

I'm a half owner in Neutonic now. Wow.

Chris Williamson (0:32)

What's your problem with blowjobs and granola? I keep on hearing- My problem with blowjobs?

Rick Glassman (0:37)

It's no problem at all.

James Sexton (0:38)

No. This story blew up. So I was representing a woman and I'd been a lot of miles with her. It was an ugly divorce. She was a successful finance person in New York City, very put together, two kids, husband who was in finance. Husband was a train wreck. We didn't realize it. He was getting a big bonus check every year and he, unbeknownst to her, was just putting it in a secret bank account that she didn't know about and then going to Vegas and just blowing it up a couple of hundred.

If I could go back in time, I would love to have seen this guy's nights out in Vegas, because when I finally got the receipts and stuff of it, he was blowing a buck 50, 200,000 in one night at like Dow, like just shirt off with bottles like crazy. She had no idea. And so ugly divorce, because we had to prove wasteful dissipation of marital assets, try to get one half of that back.

SPEAKER_5 (1:33)

Wasteful dissipation of marital assets. Balling out basically, balling without life.

James Sexton (1:39)

Burning money that was supposed to be marital money and you get it half back. That's your understanding of it.

Matt McCusker (1:45)

Wait, what do you mean say marital money?

Rick Glassman (1:49)

I didn't know you were a vest. So basically if like you're a team and your partner is out there spending $1.50, $200K a towel, just basically shirt off, blowing all your wads.

SPEAKER_5 (2:00)

It's not like double fisting things like that.

Chris Williamson (2:02)

It's more like alcohol. Yeah, with your drinks, bottles.

James Sexton (2:03)

Yeah, no, that just felt.

Chris Williamson (2:05)

What about daily? What about daily?

James Sexton (2:07)

It brought up something for me. I don't know.

Chris Williamson (2:08)

What about daily Amazon packages?

Matt McCusker (2:10)

What about daily Amazon packages?

Rick Glassman (2:11)

It's called DAP and it depends on if it's for the family or for yourself.

James Sexton (2:15)

No, we actually made a successful argument that someone buying a lot of Birkin bags and shoes was wasteful dissipation of marital assets.

Chris Williamson (2:20)

Yeah.

Matt McCusker (2:21)

Oh, so you flipped it on the bags.

Chris Williamson (2:22)

Yeah, we flipped it on her.

James Sexton (2:24)

But anyway, I was representing this woman and she basically was like, thing was falling apart, did the divorce, custody case, kind of ugly. And we'd been a lot of miles together and we were sitting on a lunch break and had gone to Starbucks and we were waiting for testimony to start again. And I just was making a small talk with her and I said, oh, was there a moment in your marriage where you knew it was over? Like where you just felt it was over? And she said, yeah, I remember it. And I was like, oh, what was it? And she said, there was this granola that I used to put on my yogurt every morning and my husband, whenever I was running out of it, he would buy it for me. And it wasn't something he'd ask for good boy points on. It was just something he would do and it made me feel very loved and seen. And then one day the granola ran out. She's like, and I just was waiting for him to refill it. I wanted to give him the chance to refill it and he just didn't and I made me realize like, oh shit, this thing's going down.

Yes, Rick?

Rick Glassman (3:18)

Question. You in the back?

Tell me who disagrees with this statement. It's wonderful that your partner recognizes the things that are important to you. But when you recognize that your partner doesn't notice it, instead of playing the game of will he discover, and instead you say, hey, I don't have any granola. Could we get granola and see how he responds to that as opposed to playing a game?