"I'm A Sex Coach For Men & In Private They ALL Confess The Same Secret…" | Caitlin V PT 2

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**Lisa Bilyeu** (0:31)
All right. Welcome back to Women of Impact. If the first half had you questioning every story you've ever heard about being desirable and intimacy, then ladies, ladies, ladies, part two is the permission slip that you never got. Because now we're not just talking about how fantasy actually works, we're freaking pulling it apart by the seams. Why are so many of us turned on by danger, by surrender, by power dynamics, and we are too ashamed to talk about it? And most importantly, how do you even use this knowledge to level up your sex life relationship and intimacy with ever abandoning yourself?
Well, here's what we're opening up. The step-by-step ways to explore taboo fantasies safely, so you can free yourself from the shame that's actually holding you back for years and get to enjoy it.
Then we go into why owning your inner archetype will finally get you what you want, not what you're supposed to want. Guys, this was so fun to go through. As we talk, I want you to also pick out what archetype you are. Then we go into the moment you realize men are carrying just as much secret pressure. I know, who knew? But man, do I have empathy now. And so she actually shares how we can actually flip the script together and create honest world connection. One, when I got married, guys, years and years ago, it's been 24 years. Now, one of the things I said is I'm never ever going to find myself in a relationship with this bed death. And bed death is where you are not intimate, you are basically roommate. And so if that is you, the amazing thing is it's not too late. No matter how long it's been, this episode, whether you're just meeting someone and you want to be kinky and explore, or if you've been in long term relationships and you're wondering, is this it? Are we done? You have to listen to this episode. It's going to change everything. And if you're wondering, is it just me? Let me freaking tell you, it's not. So let's dive in right now, right here on Women of Impact.
Okay, so we've just touched on some of the fantasies that women have, the archetypes. What's the equivalent for men? What's the women archetypes they look for?

**Caitlin V** (2:30)
Okay, so let's go into the goddess or the sovereign. So this is the archetype of a woman who's fully in her power.
She's not exactly dominant. She's more of a goddess to be worshiped.

**Lisa Bilyeu** (2:44)
Is there a real life person right now that embodies that?

**Caitlin V** (2:48)
Madonna, actually. And I would say, I mean, Madonna's got a whole deck of cards worth of characters, right? Like she's been so many things over time. But I would say that Madonna over time has really also demonstrated what it looked like to be like a very sovereign woman. And certainly she has a lot of male worshipers. Some of them are heterosexual and some of them are not. But like Madonna is a great example of like a living, breathing goddess.
If you were to be intimate with her, you would be giving to her, serving her, and she would be in the receiving role, goddess. Which is distinct from the dominant submissive role, right? We can have giver and receiver, or often called top and bottom, without having a power and control dynamic be present. One person can just be giving to the other for that person's pleasure.
So the goddess, the sovereign, another one would be the submissive, which we have talked about quite a bit. This is someone who is in a power dynamic, who is subservient, and they are giving, or of their body, they are being told what to do and being guided and directed. And the opposite of that is the dominant. We often see that as gendered, but actually, it can go either way. Let me think of what else is on my list.

**Lisa Bilyeu** (4:01)
Can I throw you out just a couple of ideas? Yeah, go ahead. So like, the girl next door. Explain to me why so many guys want the girl next door, but often all of us ladies that are the girl next door never wanted.