How To Stop Feeling So Frustrated All The Time - Jonny Miller - #826

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Why is it so hard to feel feelings?

**Jonny Miller** (4:10)
Ah, jumping right in.
I mean, we both grew up in England, and I think we're kind of known for having a stoic, keep calm, carry on mantra in our culture. And I think that, I mean, speaking for myself, I grew up, what I realize now is like numb from the neck down. I was really out of touch with so much of what was going on outside of my intellect. And it's really been, you know, the last like five, five or six years that I've come back into appreciating this, like flavors that are going on inside my system. So, I mean, I'd also be curious like for you, what is your journey with feeling emotions been like? Like, do you consider yourself as someone who, you know, we both went to Newcastle, Durham, like up there. It's not cool to kind of express emotions in public. What's your journey?