How To Raise Resilient, Confident Kids Who Can Handle The Real World Ft. Lauren Magers

**Michael Bosstick** (0:01)
Welcome to The Bossticks.
Starring Lauryn Bosstick and Michael Bosstick. Together, they are The Bossticks.

**Lauryn Bosstick** (0:14)
So you taught me how to teach my children to master their space. That is a slogan in my home. Master your space, don't leave your shit everywhere. You've taught me to do a gratitude practice within my home.
Every day, every time we sit down, we do a gratitude practice thanks to you.

**Lauren Magers** (0:33)
First of all, thank you so much, you guys. It means so much to me. This was placed on my heart. I retired at 33 I built a multi-million dollar media company with my husband. Off the hustle, cold calling, Burberry landed a $5 million deal of why I was breastfeeding. 24 years old, four kids. Wow. Okay. I was left out in the world going, God, I got the scholarship.
Why am I in Las Vegas nightclubs raging?
What did I miss in my childhood? It was the path.
I wanted the path. I wanted the living principles. I wanted the identity. I wanted the culture. I didn't have that. So I went, wait a second.
If I'm a CEO building a company, how is it that sports teams, businesses, we have a training manual, right? We have the marching plan. Everybody's taken to the same drum. How is it that we're left winging it in our homes, which causes this disconnection, this friction, this frustration, this lack of peace? I'm like, I'm not doing it. So what I did is I went on a quest for 15 years, studied with the greats all over the world, studied from Confucius to Socrates to Plato, all of it. Comes down to foundational pillars of the home, the system. The system is what gives you the output to create the results. Humans want structure and they want discipline. So for me, I was like systematically, if I can create this true north in my home, my kids can now vibrate at the same frequency. And that's really what I did. I cracked an entire code. So like the parenting manual, I invented it. And that was really downloaded to me in the dream.

**Michael Bosstick** (2:02)
What's it like having four children by the age of 25? Because I didn't have our first child.

**Lauren Magers** (2:09)
24

**Michael Bosstick** (2:10)
I didn't have our first, we didn't have our first child. And I said, I like, I did it. We didn't have our first child until I was 32 Is that right? 33, 32
And I had just kind of started to get my shit together around that period of time.
So I can't imagine doing that a decade earlier and not just one, but with four.

**Lauren Magers** (2:27)
Right.
It was the greatest joy of my life.
There was no love, I get emotional because there was no love deeper than what I felt when I had a child. It was like the first moment of my life to be able to serve something outside of myself at the highest level. It was my number one responsibility and I knew the way I was raised, I was going to shift that legacy. So for me, it was really about tapping into what did the little Lauren want? And if I can facilitate that for this human being, like putting myself, my inner child, like the work that I needed to do, like I'm healing myself alongside my children. But at the same time, it wasn't like, what is it like? It was finally, I was in this mindset of there's something that I created that I have an opportunity to nurture, to love beyond myself. And to me, that was the greatest joy.

**Michael Bosstick** (3:19)
What was it like from, I guess like, I don't know if this sounds strange, just an operational perspective, being that young, being responsible to that many children, obviously growing, you're still kind of a kid at that point, and figuring all that out. Like what did it look like then versus now? Because obviously maybe a lot different.

**Lauren Magers** (3:36)
Like I am a get in it warrior person. So like I was labeled the black sheep when I was two years old. I'm like, give it to me. I'll figure out my life, right? We're raising these entitled kids. If you look at a trust fund kid that gets a hand out, right? They're not fulfilled. You could have all the money in the world. It's the climb.
Happiness is in the climb. Happiness is in the resilience and the hard work and building character. So me at 24 years old, I was working on mastering myself. So I started to dive into, okay, triggered. Why am I triggered? Why is that showing up? Okay, that's something that I need to heal within myself. Okay, loving myself. I got a fluoride scholarship for soccer. I did all the things on paper, but I'm like, I don't even have a relationship with myself.