How To Live Life On Your Own Terms | AMA Vol. 24

Michael Gervais (0:01)

Welcome back, or welcome to another Ask Me Anything on Finding Mastery. I am your host, Dr. Michael Gervais, by trade in training a high-performance psychologist. And the purpose behind these conversations is to hear from you, to explore the questions, to explore the challenges that you've been wrestling with on your path to becoming. So joining me as always is my co-host, O'Neil Cespedes, and we get into some really fun, insightful topics today, like how to design your own life based on your priorities, bridging the gap between who we were in our younger years and who we're becoming now. The hidden dangers of giving and asking for advice, how to fully experience the range of your emotions from joy to sadness without muting them, the difference between getting good and feeling good, and of course, so much more. And we have so much fun along the way. I love doing these with O'Neil. It is so much fun. During the conversation, he uncovers a bit about my past, which was cool to explore. And then I also learned about his love for anime. So stay tuned for what that means for him. We love these AMAs because they allow us to go deep into the topics that matter most to you. Again, thank you for great questions. Keep them coming. And now with that, let's dive right into volume 24 of Finding Mastery's Ask Me Anything.

O'Neil Cespedes (1:31)

Dr. Mike, what's up?

Michael Gervais (1:32)

It's great to be here.

O'Neil Cespedes (1:33)

Great to be here with you.

Michael Gervais (1:35)

So, what's happening in the fight game? MMA, UFC, what's happening right now?

O'Neil Cespedes (1:42)

I mean, Alex Forever is happening. He's a beast.

Michael Gervais (1:45)

There's a buzz right now.

O'Neil Cespedes (1:46)

Yeah, I would say him, you know? He has this, well, first he beat Israel Adesanya, right? But then he came back and beat him. So for a little while, Alex held a middleweight belt, then he went up to light heavyweight, now he's a light heavyweight champion. He's just running through the division. So I would say he's the biggest thing right now.

Michael Gervais (2:05)

He is. And that's a big deal to change weight classes. That's a tricky thing to do, to operate in literally a different body.

O'Neil Cespedes (2:13)

Let's talk about that for just a hot second.

Michael Gervais (2:16)

Are you trying to go up or down in weight?

O'Neil Cespedes (2:19)

Man, I want to go down.

Michael Gervais (2:20)

You want to go down?

O'Neil Cespedes (2:20)

I want to be lighter. I want to be about eight pounds lighter.

Michael Gervais (2:23)

You want to lean down?

O'Neil Cespedes (2:24)

A hundred percent.

Michael Gervais (2:25)

It's lean. So you want to reconstitute your body.

O'Neil Cespedes (2:28)

I want to reconstitute my figure.

Michael Gervais (2:32)

Do you?

O'Neil Cespedes (2:33)

Yes.

Michael Gervais (2:33)

So is this for?

O'Neil Cespedes (2:34)

I'm so glad you asked me this.

Michael Gervais (2:36)

Seriously?

O'Neil Cespedes (2:36)

Yeah.

Michael Gervais (2:37)

Is it because you're too bulky and too handsome?

O'Neil Cespedes (2:41)

I don't even know why you said bulky. Why do you say, I take offense to bulky?

Michael Gervais (2:45)

You've got the muscular fit look.

O'Neil Cespedes (2:48)

I appreciate that.

Michael Gervais (2:50)

Is it functional? Is it cosmetic? What are we doing here?

O'Neil Cespedes (2:53)

If I'm being honest, because I think that we've built a relationship where I can be honest with you. Some of it is cosmetic.

Michael Gervais (3:01)

Some of it is cosmetic. Are you still doing bicep curls?

O'Neil Cespedes (3:04)

No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I'm not like that. But I mean, I look at myself, I'm like, man, I could be a little leaner. I could be a little more svelte.

Michael Gervais (3:11)

I think the same thing. I'm paying attention mostly to mobility. Yeah. And I know you've got a partner that's like, when I watch what she's doing, Kaisa is like, it's ridiculous. Yeah.

O'Neil Cespedes (3:25)

Mobility nut job.

Michael Gervais (3:26)

Mobility nut job.

O'Neil Cespedes (3:27)

But the scary thing by her is she's, okay, here's the thing. And maybe I'm hating on her a little bit. I'm gonna admit, I'm a hater. I'm a well-known hater.

Michael Gervais (3:35)

She's your partner.

O'Neil Cespedes (3:35)

Yeah, she's my partner, but yeah. But I hate on her sometimes.

Michael Gervais (3:38)

You're not gonna hold her up here.

O'Neil Cespedes (3:39)

I'm not gonna hold you up, I'm gonna just tell the truth. I look at her and I'm like, yeah, most of this is genetic. Not only are you freakishly mobile.