How to Heal Your Trust Issues

Alex Cooper (0:00)

Hello, Daddy Gang, welcome back to another Sunday session. But more importantly, it is Football Sunday. Do you see this dramatic outfit that I have on? I just want to be so clear, there's about to be so much drama in the Cooper Kaplan household today. It is Eagles versus Rams, okay? And this year, this year, the stakes are just a little bit higher because we obviously have a new member that will be entering the family. And this child, this baby, we're trying to figure out, is this baby going to be an Eagles or Rams fan? Okay? If Matt has anything to say about it, Rams threw and threw, okay? The baby's wearing blue. If the Coopers have anything to say about it, Fly Eagles, fly.

E-A-G-L-E-S, Eagles, okay? So yeah, so today, it's going to be a very heated situation. Both sides of our family are coming over to watch the game. It's definitely going to be a shit show. Because we're a lot of big shit talkers. I will say every single touchdown scored. It's going to just be a justification for which team our child needs to be repping, okay? And Matt, if you're watching this, which you should be because you need to support your wife and you watch all my episodes right, I just have to say this.

Have you bought a Rams onesie yet for our child? I didn't think so.

Also, shout out to Erin Andrews because after I interviewed her, she literally, all of everything I'm wearing is from Erin Andrews. Listen, I have Eagles gear, but when she gave me this little number, I said, Matt is going to hate this and I'm going to love it so much. Okay, honestly, let me just say something.

Now, you guys know, I guess I like sports, obviously, but I love the Eagles. And let me just say the Eagles performance last week was so horrific, so I'm just going to pray that they have a little bit of a better showing this week so they don't completely embarrass me and I'm not just showing up here in a full windbreaker, just repping my team and they just lose horribly. Eagles fans, can you please show up in the comments so that we wipe out the Rams fans? E-A-G-L-E-S, Eagles, let's just get it going in the comments. Now that we've got the Eagles out of our system, I want to talk about the relationship that changed you today. And no, I don't necessarily mean your first love or the person you thought you were going to marry. I want to talk about the relationship that changed the trajectory of every relationship that came after that for you. So maybe they cheated on you. Maybe they were an incredible liar. Maybe you spent months hearing, no, babe, she's just a friend, only to eventually find out that she was very much not just a friend, speaking from personal experience. Or maybe it wasn't one huge betrayal, right? Maybe it was years of inconsistencies and half-truths and moments where something just didn't feel right. But every single time you questioned it, somehow you ended up being called the crazy one. And then eventually maybe you got out and you blocked them, you moved away, you cried over it to your friends, you went to therapy, and you moved on. Except, did you? Did you is the real question today.

Today, I want to talk about the relationship that gave you trust issues. Because even when that relationship ends, the truth is the version of you who learned how to survive that dynamic is still living and breathing and follows you into your next relationships. You start dating someone new and they're doing everything right, but you're sitting across from them while they're on their phone and your eyes start switching and you're like, who are they texting? Oh, why did they just put their phone face down? Why haven't they responded to me in an hour when I just completely saw them active on Instagram? So they must be lying. And why were they being so nice tonight? What is the catch? Are they hiding something? Daddy Gang, I want you to know, I'm coming into this episode fully having lived this. This was my life. And as lovely and healthy as my marriage is now, trust issues have been a huge part of my dating history. And honestly, some of those old patterns even showed up in the beginning of my relationship with my husband. Throughout my relationships, I admit, I have done it all. I have gone through phones. I have interrogated. I've gotten the Instagram password. It's so much harder than it seems. I've hacked the system before, and I'm not proud of it, but it is the truth of what I experience. And I know there's a lot of people watching who have also done the same. And when you have been there, you know how far you can take it. If anything, sometimes you're like, God, I'm good. Like, I am talking about, you are calculating how long someone has been active on Instagram versus how long it took them to text you back. And then I'm talking about intentionally sitting across from someone where there is a mirror behind them that you can see what they're doing on their phone through the reflection of the mirror, or maybe it's the glasses, right? But here's something I understand now that I really could have never understood back then, which is I wasn't born knowing how to do this. None of us were born knowing how to do this. We learned how to do it. And for me, there was one relationship in particular that really ingrained this in me and influenced me.