How to Eliminate Self-Doubt, Overcome Failure, & Reset Your Mind for Success

**Mel Robbins** (0:00)
Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to The Mel Robbins Podcast.
You pressed play on this episode for a reason.
It's because you're tired. You're tired of doubting yourself, talking yourself out of the things that you want, tired of letting fear make your decisions for you.
Well, have you picked the right episode to listen to? Because our incredible guest today is going to look you in the eye and tell you. If you want your life to look and feel different a year from now, you want the dream job, true love, unshakable confidence, better friendships, more happiness, there's one rule, keep showing up. Benny Blanco is a 12-time Grammy nominated songwriter and producer with 29 number one hits. 19 of those songs have over a billion streams each on Spotify. Now, you might not know his name, but I guarantee you, you know his music. Songs like Love Yourself by Justin Bieber, Teenage Dream by Katy Perry, Moves Like Jagger by Maroon 5, hit after hit after hit. But Benny didn't start his impressive career with everything figured out. He's going to tell you he didn't grow up with famous parents or money. He doesn't really have any special talents, and he'll admit he's not the hottest guy you're ever going to see. But that makes him the perfect person to teach you how to erase self-doubt, overcome failure, and start believing in yourself and acting like it. Benny has come all the way to our Boston studios with the real stories behind his success and the hard lessons he's learned along the way. He's going to share the life-changing tools and strategies that have helped him push through nonstop rejection and setbacks, and they will help you do the same. Benny wants you to know every single failure is leading you somewhere great, even if you can't see it right now.
And if he can turn his failures into hits, you can turn yours into the life you've been wanting to live.
Hey, it's your friend Mel and welcome to The Mel Robbins Podcast. I am fired up for the conversation today. I'm so excited you're going to experience this. It's such an honor to be together to spend this time with you. And if you're a new listener, holy cow, are you in for a doozy? If you're here because somebody shared this with you, you better thank them. But first, I just want to take a moment and personally welcome you to The Mel Robbins Podcast family. Today, we're talking about how to erase self-doubt, overcome failure, and reset your mind for success with the one and only Benny Blanco. Benny is one of the most successful and sought after music producers and songwriters in the world, and one of the defining hit makers of the 21st century. He's a 12-time Grammy nominee who has 29 number one hits. 19 of his songs have over a billion streams each. He has won five BMI Songwriter of the Year awards, and as a solo artist, he has released two albums that have been streamed more than 11 billion times. Benny is also the New York Times bestselling author of the cookbook called Open Wide, and now he has written a blockbuster of a book called F Failure, which happens to be exactly the message he is here to share with you today. Benny Blanco, welcome to The Mel Robbins Podcast.

**Benny Blanco** (3:48)
Oh my gosh. Are we on?

**Mel Robbins** (3:53)
We're on.

**Benny Blanco** (3:54)
Oh wow. Okay, I'm ready.

**Mel Robbins** (3:57)
So am I. Here's where I want to start.

**Benny Blanco** (3:59)
Okay.

**Mel Robbins** (4:00)
If the person listening takes everything to heart that you're about to share, based on your life experience and your crazy career, about the importance of failure, the importance of how you handle self-doubt, if they really take to heart what you're gonna teach us today, what the heck could change about my life?

**Benny Blanco** (4:24)
I got a few things. One, I'm from Virginia. I'm not from Los Angeles. I am not from New York City.
I did not grow up with famous parents. I did not grow up with a ton of money. I was like a funny looking kid, and somehow through sheer will and not an incredible amount of talent, I really don't have an incredible amount of talent. I'm not the hottest guy you've ever seen in your life, but somehow I married the most beautiful, talented woman on planet Earth. I did everything I wanted to do in my career, and I'm still searching for new amazing opportunities every day. Look, if you're 5'4, and you want to be in the NBA, I'm gonna root for you, but it might be an uphill battle. I'd say almost everything in the world, you can do. You can do most of the things if you work hard at it. It's just about getting started, okay? So everyone always gives 9 million excuses why they're not gonna do something, why they can't. They'll say, oh, I'm gonna write this book, but oh shit, first I gotta get a typewriter. Oh no, I'm not gonna do a typewriter. I'll do it on my phone. No, no, I gotta be old school and I gotta write it by hand. By then there's been three weeks and you're still figuring out what apparatus you're gonna use to write your book. And it's just about starting now. Start today. I don't care. Whatever idea you have, if you have one idea, and it's usually the idea you're too scared to tell anyone because you're embarrassed, you're shy, all of the above, start doing something to move that from here to here. I'm asking you to move it three and a half inches forward. If you can do that, just start to do it. And you know what? The thing you start off doing might not be the thing you do in the end, but you'll probably land somewhere pretty fucking cool. Like I thought I was gonna be the biggest singer, rapper in the world when I was 11 years old.