How To Deal With Being Anxiously Attached - Jessica Baum - #489

**Chris Williamson** (0:00)
Hello, friends, welcome back to the show. My guest today is Jessica Baum. She's a licensed mental health counselor, relationship expert and an author. Attachment styles have become a hot topic recently. They underpin much of why we behave the way we do in relationships. However, anxious attachment can be a serious challenge to overcome and gets in the way of everything. So working out how to defeat these dating demons is an important insight to uncover. And thankfully, that is the topic of Jessica's new book. So today, expect to learn what the science is behind attachment styles, why anxious attachment develops at all, whether you can fix your anxious attachment style while you're single, how to communicate with an anxiously attached partner more effectively, how to control your body and mind if you feel anxious, why Love Island's promo photos aren't that bad and much more. In case you missed it, Jocko Willink is coming on modern Wisdom. I'm flying out to San Diego in a couple of weeks' time to record with him in person, full production team, 6K cinema cameras, full sound and audio video setup. This is going to be incredibly special. I can't wait to sit down with him. I love his work. I think he's perfect for these more intense, dramatic style episodes. I'm super excited. Him and Andrew Huberman in the space of a month is a big one. It's a big one that we've got coming up. Don't forget to hit subscribe because you're going to miss these episodes if you don't. In other news, this episode is brought to you by Manscaped. If you are a gentleman who is still trimming your most sensitive area with an old shaver from several years ago, come on, join us in 2022 There is a purpose-built tool for the job. The Manscaped engineering team has obsessed over technology developments to provide you with the best tools for your grooming experience. 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