How Long Should You be in the Honeymoon Stage?

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Hi, and welcome back to another episode. So today, I wanted to talk about stages in relationships. Specifically, like, like something I was thinking about today was just the honeymoon stage, and like how long you're supposed to be in there, and if it's healthy to be in that stage for a long period of time, or if it's just like, could it be infatuation, could it be like not real love, with what it means, and so I really spent some time thinking about this, and I want to share what I have come up with and what I think it is.

So I have been dating my boyfriend for six months now. It was six months, two days ago, and I couldn't have been happier. I'll tell you a little bit about our little date that we went on. It was a picnic on campus. We were originally going to a park. We walked like two miles to a park, and I was in a dress, and it was windy, cold, but still as long as that was a beautiful day, it really was. And it turned out that the park was kind of small, and everything was dead because we just came out of winter, so everything was like, I mean, there was green grass some places, but it was mainly like winter branches, pretty much, and dirt, and so it was really funny. But yeah, we got there, and there was like a bunch of kids there, and X, Y, and Zs, pretty much it was occupied, is what I'm trying to say. And so then we Ubered back to our campus, and literally, like two seconds outside of where like my dorm is, we decided to have a picnic there. And I thought it was so funny how we went all the way, like to Dim Buck Doo, just to come back, literally the place that we started.

But I think the journey there was exciting. It was really fun. And then when we got back, it was, it was like, wow, we could have just stayed here. But yeah, we got like our childhood foods, like Lunchables, like to like, kind of replicate a charcuterie board on a budget, you know?

And then also, some fruit and PB&Js, and then, you know, some drinks. And it was really fun, it was really nice just to be out there with him, and to have our little me and him day was, it was really nice.

So yeah, that was my six months' anniversary, and I wouldn't have wanted to go any other way.

And then we went to the, sorry, I had to add this, we went to the cafeteria, because that was for lunch, we went to the cafeteria for dinner, and we stole tortillas and cheese and chicken. And then we brought it back, and we made quesadillas, and they were really good quesadillas, like, they were so good.

So yeah, it was just such a fun day. But yeah, we also took a nap, and that was like the first time we've ever taken a nap together, which is crazy, and now I think about it. And we actually, so we've tried before, but because we like, you know, like when you say, like you're gonna do something, and because you're gonna force to do it, you can't do it, like that's how a nap was. And like when we took a nap, we just like were laying down, and we were watching a basketball game, because it's playoffs, and we, yeah, we were laying down, and I was laying on him, and I was like, oh, I'm kind of tired, and so I just like fell asleep, and he fell asleep after me, and he was the cutest thing ever, but okay, like I'll stop ranting.

I still have to say that we are still in the honeymoon phase, and you know, some people say that it lasts like months. Some people say it lasts weeks, some people say it lasts like a whole year. I think the max is like a year. And so I was just, I wanted to know, like, if it's healthy to still be so in love with my boyfriend. But not only that, but to be so PDA-y and affectionate and wanting to be with him all the time, wanting to kiss him all the time, hug him all the time, grab his cheeks all the time, you know what I mean? If it's still considered fine to be doing that in six months, I think it is. And I think I've determined that it is. But the reason why I say this is because my friend, her and her boyfriend, well, they are long distance, but like they were out of it a long time ago, and they just turned a year. Actually, I think like three months ago, they turned a year. Three or two months ago. But they were out of it, like, we were talking about it beginning of this year, of this college year. So like September, October, November-ish, she was saying how she was already out of it. So that was like maybe like nine, like seven to nine months they were already out of it. And so I'm just like, well, I'm at six, and we are still at the same level, if not more, so it's like, I don't, like it's just like, it's just ever gonna calm down. And I think that I've determined that I want the type of relationship where like we're still dancing, like randomly when we hear music in a restaurant, you know, like when we're older. I still wanna be doing that when we're older. I still wanna be like affectionate, even if it's gross, cause we're old, but still like moderately affectionate when we're older. Still wanna like say really bad jokes to each other and like look at each other the way we do with like just, just love. Like I just really wanna, I wanna be fully in love as if it's new every day with him. And so I found that like it's genuinely not hard to do that with him and it's not hard to keep it alive, which is an awesome feeling. I don't feel like I'm like fighting anything or like I'm struggling or anything or like I'm forcing anything, which is awesome to be feeling six months in.