Hinge's Relationship Scientist Gives Dating Advice - Logan Ury - #457

**Chris Williamson** (0:00)
Hello, friends, welcome back to the show. My guest today is Logan Ury. She's the Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, a Harvard-trained behavioral scientist and an author. Modern dating is difficult. Thankfully, Logan has access to all the data from Hinge and can conduct as many studies as she wants on trends and preferences from thousands of people who are in and out of relationships. Expect to learn why an intentional approach to dating seems like a turnoff, but is a very smart strategy. Why you should start looking to settle down after dating 30% of your partners. What the data tells us is the most important rules for constructing a successful online dating profile. Why chasing the spark is a recipe for disaster. How to break up with someone, how to get over heartbreak and much more. This evidence-based dating approach is quite unique and using principles from behavioral science to inform how you go about dating seems a bit counter to a lot of people. It's supposed to be some black box. Romance is supposed to be this black box that you don't ever intentionally try and actually alter things in. But I don't think that's true. I think that we're intentional about our diet and our training and our sleep and everything else that we do. So why wouldn't you do it about one of the most important choices that you're going to make, which is who you decide to spend the rest of your life with. And Logan is perfectly positioned obviously with access to probably millions of people's worth of data. So yes, today is very, very cool. I hope you enjoy this one. In other news, this episode is brought to you by Manscaped. If you are a gentleman who needs to trim your body hair, you need to use a purpose-built tool for the job. And the Manscaped Lawnmower 4 is the best ball and body hair trimmer ever created. It's designed to have a 90 minute battery so you can take a longer shave if you're a slightly hairier gentleman. 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