EMERSON EGGERICHS | Lightbulb Moments in Marriage (Ep. 934)

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This is UndauntedLife A Man's Podcast. I'm your host, Kyle Thompson. Let's get into it. All right, guys, we've got a special guest on the podcast today. His name is Emerson Eggerichs. He is an author and communication expert. And guys, if you've heard that name before, it's because he is the New York Times bestseller of one of the most popular Christian marriage books of all time, Love & Respect. That came out in the early 2000s, sold over 2 million copies. And if you go to our book list, that's undaunted.life.booklist. We have a marriage category that is prominently placed in there. Our Sunday school class has gone through that book. It's just, it's one of those books that it's just essential for you if you're ever gonna be married, right? So if you're single right now, read that book. If you're engaged, read it. If you're married, read it. If you're divorced, read it. If you're in a great marriage, terrible marriage, anything in between, that's something that you need to read. And we certainly do talk about that in the show. But we start off the episode today with something where we were talking about the concept of honor and virtue and kind of the things that have changed in terms of how do men even pursue those things. It was a great place to start. Talked a little bit about love and respect. And then we talked about his new book, Lightbulb Moments in Marriage. And I think that it's, we weaved in and out of a lot of different subject matters. What has feminism done? How has that impacted how people respond in marriage? And then guys, honestly, I was selfishly very excited about this interview because of the DMs and emails and conversations that I've had with so many of you guys, right? Hundreds of you, if not more, about the struggles you're having in your marriage, right? The problems you're causing, but then also the problems that are being caused by your spouse. And it's like, okay, you know, what if you're in a sexless marriage? Like, which is, I guess, clinically speaking, less than four times a year. What are you to do? What if you're in a marriage where you're fixing things and you're working on yourself and you're becoming sanctified, but your wife is just basically disinterested? What about, you know, maybe you're not in a sexless marriage, but you're not satisfied with the sex life. Maybe you just fight all the time. All you're wanting is a little bit of peace, right? You want to go one day without there being some sort of miscommunication or torpedoes, the rest of the interactions you're going to have with your spouse that day. And so I told him even off air, I'm like, look, 95% of this audience is male. Shout out to the 5%ers. We love y'all. But please talk to the men in my audience. Like, they need help. And I'm just, I'm flat-footed. This isn't my area of expertise. This is not some of the stuff that I have to deal with, that these guys are dealing with. I don't know what to tell them to do. This isn't as simple as, you need to work out more. You need to read your Bible or you need to do Jiu Jitsu.
It's more complicated than that. And so we get into all those different subject matters. He's an expert on this. He's been doing this for decades. Guys, I'm very thrilled with how this turned out. I wish we had more time. We'll certainly get it back on in the future. But without further ado, let's get into it.
Emerson Eggrich, welcome to Undaunted.Life A Man's Podcast.

**Emerson Eggerichs** (3:53)
Thank you, sir.

**Kyle Thompson** (3:54)
Well, I am thrilled to have you on and I just want to get right to it. So if you're okay with jumping right into the fire with me, you good with that? Okay. I figured you were. We just got through talking about this off air and so it's fresh on my mind. I'm not going to start with what I wanted to start with. You brought up the concept of honor, right? And so when you talk to male audiences, which you're talking to 95% male audience, but shout out to my 5% or shout out to those 5% of ladies out there that are killers.