Does Anyone Care About Men's Mental Health? - Matt Rudd - #445

**Chris Williamson** (0:00)
Hello everybody, welcome back to the show. My guest today is Matt Rudd. He's the Deputy Editor at The Sunday Times Magazine and an author. Men between the ages of 45 and 49 are at the highest risk of attempting to take their own life. In a world filled with accusations of patriarchal overreach, it seems odd that men are suffering so much with their mental health in a world that apparently they created. It's not good for them or their wives or their children. Matt researched men of all ages to work out why men are unhappy and what we can do about it. Expect to learn why your 40s might be the weirdest period of your life, why men would rather be a workaholic than face their internal fears, the challenges of the male denial of mental health, why men feel indulgent shame if they're sad, why boys are trained to be competitive in school, how to tell if you're genuinely getting old and much more.
I really enjoy Matt's very dry, very British way of approaching an incredibly serious topic. The male denial of mental health problems is so pervasive, and no matter how many It's OK to Talk campaigns there are, there's still a lot more work to be done. So I really appreciate the research that he went through for his book and all of the experiments that he did to try and make himself better, and then his learnings and his openness on the other side of that. Also, if you enjoy this episode, make sure that you hit the subscribe button, as it is the only way that you can ensure that you will never miss an episode every Monday, Thursday and Saturday when they are uploaded. In other news, this episode is brought to you by Manscaped. You do not need to use an old face shaver from three Christmases ago to shave your gentleman's area. 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