Does Anyone Care About Male Loneliness? - Max Dickins - #511

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Hello, friends. Welcome back to the show. My guest today is Max Dickins. He's the director of improv company Hoopla, an author and a mental health advocate. Loneliness is as dangerous as smoking, and men are suffering worse than ever. This is bad for them, it's bad for their partners, it's bad for their employers, their children, and society at large. Men are struggling to toe the line between manning up and opening up, and many of them are doing neither. Expect to learn what Max learned from having no best man to choose from for his wedding, how men's loneliness differs from female loneliness, the evolutionary explanation for shallower male friendships, how being in a shed can help you bond, why contributing to a project and doing things is crucial for bonding amongst men, whether the manosphere is actually helping, and much more. Don't forget that if you're listening, you should have also got a copy of the Modern Wisdom reading list, 100 books that you should read before you die. It's 100 of my favorite fiction and nonfiction, and links to them and descriptions about why I like them. You can get your copy right now for free. Go to chriswillx.com/books. That's chriswillx.com/books.
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