Dating, Haters & Mental Health - Nicole Arbour - #335

**Chris Williamson** (0:00)
What's happening, people? Welcome back to the show. My guest today is Nicole Arbour. She's a comedian and a YouTuber. Nicole has been through her fair share of controversy. So what insights has she gained from a decade of public attention, haters, success and failure? Today, expect to learn what Nicole discovered after 10 years of chronic pain, what Americans, Canadians and Brits can learn from each other, why Canadian politeness has been weaponized, what the right are getting wrong, how to deal with criticism, Nicole's dating advice to her younger self and much more. It's cool to see a different side of someone that's a comedian. I think this is one of the best ways to sit them down and delve into what drives someone to be funny and to try and have a message and get it across and energize other people to get on board with it. Nicole, she's an interesting girl. She's got a lot more going on than I think most people give her credit for, and I'm really glad that I got to sit down and dig into a very different side of her than you see on her Instagram and on news articles posted by TMZ. But now it is time for the wild and wonderful Nicole Arbour. Nicole Arbour, welcome to the show.

**Nicole Arbour** (1:28)
Yay, thanks for having me.

**Chris Williamson** (1:30)
My pleasure. Is this the easiest time in the world to find inspiration for comedy? Because all that you have to do is just read headlines.

**Nicole Arbour** (1:38)
Yes, 100%. 100%.
I'm so overwhelmed with how much material there is. I'm almost frozen on the spot. It's like my fight or flight is for comedy right now. There's so much.

**Chris Williamson** (1:51)
It's weird, right? Because you guys haven't been able to do much live stuff, and everyone that's been doing things on the internet it's made sense because it's all internet stories and then internet commentary.

**Nicole Arbour** (2:01)
I think it's great because I started doing the online stuff probably six years ago and all my stand-up friends were making fun of me. They were like, that's not real comedy. That's not, and then they were all forced to do it during the pandemic, and now they get it, and they get how fun it is, and they get that we can reach a bigger audience, so I was there first.

**Chris Williamson** (2:18)
Now you have endless content.

**Nicole Arbour** (2:20)
Yeah.

**Chris Williamson** (2:22)
Yeah, it's mental. It really is. I guess because in the UK, we see some of the stuff that trickles through from America, right? And I don't know, it must feel like every single day, there's far too much for you to even comment on.

**Nicole Arbour** (2:34)
There is. That's why I have to stop and focus myself and go, okay, wait, what projects am I actually working on? Because I can go on Twitter and be there all day, and just make fun of these headlines, or make TikToks, or make whatever it is, so I have to focus myself.

**Chris Williamson** (2:49)
Here's something.

**Nicole Arbour** (2:49)
This is the Morgasbord right now of comedy content.

**Chris Williamson** (2:51)
Yeah. Well, the world is. Something that I realized a couple of weeks ago, because I listened to a good bit of The Daily Wire, and I'm mates with some of the producers there, which I know you're in Nashville, right? That's the hometown now for them. And it hasn't felt like they've had to come up with anything to talk about for about a year. But they're just constantly being, because people don't like being called reactionaries. But when there's more stuff to react to, then there is stuff for you to talk about from your side. Do you understand? It really feels like the left is kind of throwing everything they have at the world, and then the right is just playing defense at the moment.

**Nicole Arbour** (3:28)
I agree with you on that, but I don't think it's the right tactic personally. And I've had that discussion with some of the people at Daily Wire. I actually feel like conservatives as a whole right now, aren't necessarily playing the best game that can be played. If we're cool to get into that.
Yeah, I don't think being on defense constantly is smart at all. You should be on offense. And I think that we're leading by being defensive which doesn't work. And if we want people on our team, we should stop shrieking and screaming at people and telling everyone how much they suck all day every day and be awesome fucking people. And then they'll want to be part of what you're part of. It's kind of like Christians who are wearing necklaces and having bumper stickers but they're assholes in real life. If you're a bit more Christ-like or like a cool person, then people will be like, yo, what are you about? And then you can tell them about your religion. But I think conservatives right now, like the whole game needs to shift and maybe it's new coaches need to come in, maybe it's new influencers, maybe it's someone like myself that doesn't want to be shrieking and screaming all day. And I don't think that's the only representation of conservative women or libertarian women. And I think we can be awesome and be friends and work with liberals and that's the way to bring people over to our side, is by being so awesome they want to be on our team. And yeah, those are my thoughts.