BE A BETTER MAN - Dry Creek Wrangler Motivation

SPEAKER_1 (0:00)

The average man, I believe, the average real man, does not need to go get therapy for the battles and the burdens he's carried inside. What he needs is for those that he's carrying them for, to recognize that they're there, and to respect it, and to be grateful for it.

They don't need therapy, they need gratitude. Let's take away vulnerability, okay? Because a lot of times, men won't open up, they won't respond, because it's looked at as becoming vulnerable. If I'm sitting here, and if I'm one of these guys, and my significant other is sitting there, I can communicate to her what I need to communicate without being vulnerable.

I can maintain my strength and communicate to her. I can say, look, I'm working 60 hours a week, and the environment that I'm working in is very, very difficult.

And I come home and I only have eight hours here at the house, and this is the only place of peace I have in this entire world. And when I come home, you're angry all the time. You're not satisfied about anything. You know, whatever the situation is, if you're not going to provide for me that little bit of peace, that this is the only place I can get, what are we doing? Young men these days were never taught by another man how to treat a lady like a lady. And they go in to a relationship, girlfriends, marriages, getting all their information from Hollywood. And it's a crash and burn, because they don't understand relationships, they don't understand communication, they don't understand the balance between being a man and being a boar, being a buffoon. How does he find that balance? That fits him.

Chris (2:13)

I've heard you say that a good man is born to serve, not born to make money.

SPEAKER_1 (2:18)

Absolutely.

Chris (2:19)

What's that mean to you?

SPEAKER_1 (2:20)

If I pour all my life into making money, that's for me. But if I pour my life into as many people as is fitting, their life is better for me having come through. What means the most to me is that when you leave here today, in some small way, your life is better for us having sat down and talk. I'm really bothered by these guys who are financial gurus who will fire you if you don't have a six-pack. There's a problem.

There's a main thing, staying the main thing, problem with that viewpoint on life.

I want to see men that I want to see them find balance. I don't want to see them find money. I don't want to see them find six-packs. If that is part of the result of it, fine.

Chris (3:13)

Okay.

SPEAKER_1 (3:14)

But I want them to find balance and I want them to find that place inside where they're like, my main thing is my main thing and it's enough.

I think a real man is born to serve. Serve means provide for those that are in your sphere of you to provide for. It means to protect. It means to encourage. It means to teach and to train. Sometimes it means to step back and let them hit the wall.

Sometimes the best service you can do for somebody is to when it's all done, walk up and look down and say, did that hurt? You know, that's what they needed. But we won't do that because it makes us look bad. And even in our service to others, we do it for ulterior motives, you know. But yes, I believe that very strongly. I believe if you spend your whole life to yourself, for yourself, you have no purpose of being here. This planet is not in any way better for you having been here.

Chris (4:14)

Is that what a good man is to you?

SPEAKER_1 (4:16)

That's what a good man is to me.

Chris (4:20)

What do you think about the balance when it comes for men between strength and softness?

SPEAKER_1 (4:28)

You know, I'm still old enough, and I'm of the school. It's like, just deal with it.

Chris (4:36)

Suck it up.

SPEAKER_1 (4:37)

Suck it up. I broke three ribs one time in a barn, saddling horses, horse to a fit, took eight aspirin, and got on that horse and did a four-hour ride because I had a job to do. It's my job.

Let's go back to balance, okay?

Chris (4:56)

I was about to mention that.

SPEAKER_1 (4:57)

I understand. I'm with you 100%.

But at the same time, your balance and my balance and his balance are different. And so I think a man has to find his own balance. I think it could be taken to the point that men just become weak. And brother, let me tell you in this day and age, we don't need more weak men.