Anxious Attachment 101

**Alex Cooper** (0:00)
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Like, why does a healthy relationship feel like a chore, but a toxic text at 2 a.m. It feels like a spark. It feels like chemistry, right? If you relate to that, we are going to get to you, don't worry. To other girlies listening, why do you get physically sick to your stomach if someone doesn't reply to a meme you just sent within 45 minutes and then you immediately are convincing yourself, you know, they literally hate me. If that is you, do not worry. I will get to you. And then for my independent woman out there, why does the thought of actually telling someone you missed them make you feel like you basically want to jump out of a moving vehicle? You're like, into oncoming traffic actually sounds way better than doing this. Like, why is your first instinct, second someone gets close? You're like, pack my bags, find a flaw.
Well, I've also got you too. All of these are kind of alluding to different attachment styles. And I think the hard truth about attachment styles is how you attached to your caregivers when you were a literal toddler, a baby, an infant, is currently running your adult life.