Adapting to Stress and Building Trust In Self | Dr. David Rabin

David Rabin (0:00)

When we ask ourselves, what is wrong with me that my life is so hard?

We make an assumption that everyone else's life is easier, and that there's something actually wrong with us. And then that creates these negative patterns that literally takes apart, it pulls apart our confidence and our self-esteem from the inside out. It facilitates learning patterns, as you were saying earlier, of self-deprecation, self-criticism, self-hate, and really at the core, self-fear, rather than what we would hope we would cultivate for growth, which is self-gratitude, self-forgiveness, self-compassion, and self-love.

And so it's understanding the duality of every moment is that all of these things exist in every moment. In every moment that we have in our lives, there is fear and there is love. And then there's everything that stems from fear and there's everything that stems from love. And we have a choice to make a decision to what we choose to pay attention to, and that is the mind. And what we choose to pay attention to manifests into our reality through our minds. What could be more powerful than that?

Michael Gervais (1:10)

Okay, welcome back or welcome to the Finding Mastery podcast. I'm Michael Gervais and by trade and training, I'm a sport and performance psychologist. And the whole idea behind these conversations is to learn from people who are on the path of mastery, to better understand what they're searching for, their psychological framework, which is really how do they make sense of themselves and the world around them, especially when things aren't going according to plan. And then we want to understand the mental skills that they use to build and refine their craft.

I want to take a minute here to announce a really exciting event that we have coming up. As you continue to navigate the challenges and opportunities of 2024, I want to pose a question. What are you doing right now to be great with stress? How are you working with stress on your pursuit towards your most important ambitions and goals? And I just want to get right to the heart of the key elements, one in particular, for what it takes to excel in today's high heat, high stakes world. Because stress is not the problem that we think it is. Stress is a synonym for change. And our ability to be agile with change, that is the real opportunity at hand. So if you're wanting to unlock extraordinary results and sustainable performance in your life, it's not about avoiding or reducing stress. And as simple as that sounds, it's very tricky to do, but it is about fundamentally changing your relationship with it. And that's why I'm so thrilled to invite you to a special event. It's a free virtual event that we're offering, and it's called The Power of Embracing Stress. It's on Wednesday, March 6th at 2 p.m. Pacific. So to sign up, just head over to findingmastery.com/training, whether it's advancing in your career or improving your health or cultivating stronger relationships. I think a new approach to stress can be one of the most powerful unlocks for you in your life. So join us for this free virtual training, The Power of Embracing Stress on Wednesday, March 6th at 2 p.m. Pacific. Go to findingmastery.com/training to sign up. Once again, that's findingmastery.com/training. And I'm really excited to see you there.

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Now, this week's conversation is with Dr. David Rabin, a neuroscientist, board certified psychiatrist, health tech entrepreneur, and inventor who has been studying the impact of chronic stress in humans for more than a decade. David has been fascinated by consciousness and our inherent ability to heal ourselves from injury and illness.