A Divorce Attorney's Guide to Staying Together... and Not Going Broke

**Nicole Lapin** (0:00)
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**James Sexton** (3:21)
Being around people who are in the wreckage of weaponized intimacy, like the breakdown of relationship, has made me much more aware of how love isn't permanently gifted. It's loaned. The truth is, with some very limited preventative maintenance, I think money and love are very similar in that way, that the best advice isn't that sexy. There are little habits you can do every single day that are going to improve your situation and that are going to pay dividends over time.

**Nicole Lapin** (3:48)
James Sexton is America's divorce attorney. He is one of the most sought after experts on getting divorced and surprisingly staying together. We talked for so long and covered so much good ground that I'm actually splitting this conversation up into two episodes. So today, you're going to hear his advice for people who are getting married. In a few weeks, you're going to hear his advice for people who are thinking about getting divorced. Divorce can be really expensive and he has incredible advice on how to separate equitably. But today, we talk about what people should know before getting married.

**James Sexton** (4:16)
It's the only contract that you don't actually sign. You sign a marriage license, but it doesn't have the terms and conditions in it.

**Nicole Lapin** (4:21)
Some little known facts on what's actually enforceable in prenup.

**James Sexton** (4:25)