4M Subscriber Q&A - #1040

**Chris Williamson** (0:00)
Hello, friends. Welcome back to the show. It is a 4 million subscriber Q&A episode. It's a very large number and still sinking in. That we've got there, still sinking in that we're the eighth biggest podcast in the world, according to Spotify wrapped as well. But anyway, I asked for questions from YouTube community and Twitter and Instagram. I know a lot and I've got a flight to catch soon. So let's get into them. John Hughes 4228 Well done, Chris. Love your conversations. So what's with the new haircut? Is it from Turkey? Starting off strong here. Interesting, if any guy grows their hair in their thirties, the natural assumption is that they got a hair transplant. That no guy in their thirties would choose to have a shaved head. It's just enforced on them by their genetics and their DHT. But I actually chose to shave mine off. This is all natural. Look, I did this on a Q&A a little while ago, but for the people who missed it, I will reiterate. As a guy with curly hair, there are three haircuts available, right? There is shaved head, buzz cut, which I had for a while. There is this one, which is long on top, short on sides, maybe long on back. Unfortunately, Mark Zuckerberg owned that haircut and the broccoli kids turned it into a meme. Or afro. There's three. Shave it off, cut it short on the sides or let it loose. Your hair doesn't get longer, it gets bigger when you have curly hair. It's not a perm. I fucking wish it was a perm because then if I didn't perm, it would be nice and straight. I always wanted straight hair as a kid and I thought it would be so cool. Unfortunately not. I am stuck with this. I think the shaved head will be coming back, certainly as it gets hotter in Austin it will. But look, I'm just sampling from the follicular delights table, the buffet of three options that I've got as a guy with curly hair. So put up with it for now. It'll be here for a while and then you'll miss it, and then it will be gone and you'll miss it. Well, maybe not, but whatever.
Ironmanery73, just to interject here, if this is one of the first Q&As you've heard from me, much of the time is me spent struggling to pronounce the usernames of the people who submit the questions, because everybody has stupid usernames. Just disclaimer up top. Do you agree that alpha males feel so isolated and so misunderstood? I certainly think that is the case, yes. A lot of guys who are hard charging grindset dudes will be doing it on their own. It's rare to be that motivated to sort of have that much agency end up with mobility. And what ends up happening typically is that you are, you're still arranging it. Like there aren't that many people around you that want to work as hard as you. Now it depends what your definition of alpha male is, right? Is it sort of the meme definition or is it hard charging go getter type person?
I think it's kind of inevitable if you are doing it in the hard charging kind of way that you're going to be misunderstood and isolated because you're doing something that most other people don't do, so they can't understand and they're not doing it, which means you don't have that many people who are on the journey with you too. I think that's one of the advantages of platforms like Reddit, even Twitter to an extent where you start to build a community of people around you who are into the shit that you're into because it makes you feel less alone. Also, from a more emotional lens, a lot of the alpha males are working that hard and trying to prove to the world their worth because maybe they don't feel like they're worth all that much themselves. And if that's the case, it's going to be, they're going to push people away. Their efforts are going to keep people at arms distance and the isolation is almost self-imposed in that way. They've maybe struggled to connect with people. They don't feel loved. They don't feel like they belong. So they work real hard because if the world needs them, that's kind of the same as the world loving them because the world will want them, but they'll want them to extract stuff from them as opposed to want them just because they show up as themselves or because they're inherently worthwhile or whatever. So they start to perform and the performance causes them to be isolated because people don't truly see them and then they start to be this sort of persona that they've created themselves and the person of who they really are gets quieter and quieter and quieter while the persona gets louder and louder. So yeah, I think, I didn't know that this was a meme, that alpha males feel so isolated and misunderstood, but I could see why that would happen. Ajit Dehalwale9, fuck, fucking fuck. Have better usernames, Jesus Christ. What question from your tour have you found most interesting? Okay, you redeemed your username with a good question. That's a great question.