23 Controversial Truths About Life - Alex Hormozi - #670

**Chris Williamson** (0:00)
Hello everybody, welcome back to the show. My guest today is Alex Hormozi. He's a founder, investor and an author. Alex's content has been one of my favorite sources of great insights over the last few years. Today, we get to go through some of my favorite lessons from him about life, human behavior, psychology, business and resilience. Expect to learn Alex's most controversial opinion, the mindset reframe that can get you past your limits, strategies to overcome self doubt, why your revenge fantasy is a petty life goal, how to overcome regrets, how to hack motivation, the keys to avoiding a victim mindset, the only productivity tip that matters, where unbreakable resilience comes from and much more. So much fun recording this episode. I left it feeling unbelievably fired up and I'm confident that you're going to feel the same. I love Alex's insights. There is a big movement at the moment to give us a pat on the back when we do well, which I think is absolutely needed. But there is also a requirement to say you can do more. You can be more. You can get past the limits and the challenges that are in front of you. And you could do it 10, 100, a thousand times over and still have more in the tank. And it's Alex's lean in, never quit mentality, which I really like. And yeah, I reflected a lot on this conversation since I recorded it a week and a half ago. And I know that you're going to take absolutely tons away from it. Don't forget that if you are new here or a returning listener, you may be listening but not subscribed. And that means that you will miss episodes when they go up. The next 10 weeks has a cinema episode, one of these huge productions going out every single week. That's how hard we've been working. So if you don't want to miss any of those, and if you want to support the show, and if you want to make me very happy, just go and press the subscribe button. Go on, I thank you. But now, ladies and gentlemen, please welcome Alex Hormozi.
Today, we're gonna go through as many of your lessons as we can in about three hours, and we're gonna see what we can get through. First one, a friendly reminder that in three generations, everyone who knew us will be dead, including the people whose opinions stopped you from doing what you wanted all along. Imagine that someone you know achieves every dream and hits every goal they have. Years later, they get old and die. Two years after that, how much do you care? About as much as everyone else will if you accomplish your goals and dreams. Do it for you.

**Alex Hormozi** (2:47)
So, I think about death all the time because it's probably the central theme. It's probably the thing that I think the most about and I think that influences how I see time and also how it influences agency. Like what actions I'm willing to take despite the judgment of others. And so, a lot of times, it might be because I have more insecurity than everyone that I think like, man, I want to do this thing and then I hear all these other voices of reasons why I shouldn't do it or why somebody else will say like, that's bad or you're bad or like that's wrong, whatever. And so, I think I've had to come up with a lot of these devices to get around my own insecurities, to take action despite those insecurities. And the biggest one that I think about is that it doesn't matter whether I achieve all of my goals or I don't achieve all of the goals in three generations, I'll be forgotten and the only people who were nacing against me will also be dead. And so, then it's like, just do it for me. And then, when I wake up every day, there's only one voice I have to listen to.

**Chris Williamson** (3:48)
But that means that you need to be able to work out what to do from first principles. You now no longer have societal norms or assistance or role models or archetypes or expectations. And that's also difficult in a different way.

**Alex Hormozi** (4:04)
I think that the more you flex whatever that muscle is of like independent thinking, the more it becomes the default way that you think. And then everyone else's action is to start looking more and more insane to you.

**Chris Williamson** (4:16)
What like, what's an example of that that you can think of?

**Alex Hormozi** (4:18)
I mean, shoot, just the most basic ones of like living the life that you don't want, not wearing what you want to wear, not dating who you want to date, not living where you want to live. Like you're living at home and you want to move and your parents say no and you don't make the move or you're dating a girl because she's socially accepted by your friend group. She's safe, but like there's always some distance in between you, but you're like, I don't want to risk it, right? Or like you're in the job and every day you go there and you're like, I mean, it's okay. And the idea of just living an okay life just sounds so terrifying to me that the freedom to fail over and over again is still more fulfilling to me. At least it feels like it's real than walking through kind of on autopilot.