#2144 - Chris Distefano

Joe Rogan (0:04)

The Joe Rogan Experience.

I never know what's going on with you. If this is like an act, or if this is part of the fun of being Chrissy Di.

Chris Distefano (0:18)

I mean, no, well, Chrissy Di was all fun and games.

Joe Rogan (0:22)

Was.

Chris Distefano (0:23)

Was.

Joe Rogan (0:23)

Third person.

Chris Distefano (0:24)

Now, we're coming into a part, two major things have happened here. Okay. One, I've refound my love for Christ and I'm back believing. I'm back being Catholic. I'm back in. Nice. Got two feet in Catholicism, we're back, baby.

And then the other thing is, is I made, I, six months ago, I had this beautiful house, Staten Island, right?

Everything we wanted, sold the house because I was having anxiety about doing a show at Radio City. I swear to God, I, I, my brain couldn't process it that way, but through therapy, the therapist figured out, and it's right because I checked on this with my girlfriend and she was like, that's exactly what you did.

Got, was very nervous about Radio City, didn't know where to put that energy because it was a big show. I'm a New York guy, big, biggest weekend of my life.

So I said about two weeks before Radio City came home, I said, we're putting up the house for sale. I want to be able to walk to a bagel store. We can't walk to a bagel store at this house on Staten Island. I need that for my creative process. And my girl was like, what are you doing? We just renovated our kitchen, the living, we just, you just poured money into, this is our home. I was like, I can't walk to a bagel store and I'm like, it's going to fuck my comedy up. It will. What? Yeah. And then, you know, if, and then people, if you knew my address back then, you would know that there's a bagel, was a bagel store 0.9 miles away, um, that I didn't know about.

Joe Rogan (1:51)

But you had a dream house.

Chris Distefano (1:52)

I had a dream house that I, that we put to our liking. And I said, I couldn't, didn't understand it then. I said, we're selling the house. And I convinced my family, because that's what we can do, write us comics. I convinced them, I had them buy this story, convinced my girl, my family, what's going to be better for us is to sell this five bedroom house. Here's what we, here's the move. We're going to sell this five bedroom house for about $300,000 under asking price. We're going to get out of this puppy. We're going to sell that. We're going to move to Queens where we can walk to stuff and bagel stores and be in civilization. We're going to temporarily live in a two bedroom apartment and then we're eventually going to move into a condo and life's going to be better because we won't have to, I won't have to care for these grounds anymore. I won't have to throw out the garbage. We'll be safe in an apartment. People can come in the back window of our home and this will be the move.

And I did that and then the apartment that we had lined up fell through.

We left the apartment we were living in because it had roaches.

Jasmine almost left me. She was almost like, I can't be a part of your chaos and self-sabotage anymore. And I had to kind of really just say, what the hell did I just do?

Figure this problem out, went back into therapy, turned back into religion, starting to find some answers, and now we're living in a home that we're renting, that we like, and we're kind of settling in, but that I learned the valuable, I learned the lesson of self-sabotage in the hard way. The hardest, it's weird. What's going on in my career right now, selling the most tickets I ever had, financially the best I've ever done, getting all these opportunities, was the worst version of me as a human being. Not because I was just self-sabotaging after self-sabotaging, and I couldn't, didn't know why.

Joe Rogan (3:41)

Do you have friends that you could talk to about this stuff?

Chris Distefano (3:43)

Yeah, but they're, you know, not, they call me gay, you know what I mean? Like they're old school New York guys that are like, I don't fucking know dude, get a therapist. And I'm like, well, yeah, I, I, what I had to do, what I, I really felt like nobody could really help me with this. I was like, I got to just turn to professional therapist. And then I go into, and then I turned to, back to going to church. And I was like, well, at least I have like, if anything for me, church is just an hour a week to just meditate and sit there. And I have nothing, I have no thoughts, I have no technology. I'm like, it's just me and whoever I think God is.